This tag is for game-participant dynamics including dealing with sensitive topics, managing group composition, and other table-level interactions. For questions dealing with the actual party of characters in the game, use the party tag.

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Is the DM Always Right?

I recently got into a disagreement with my DM for a DND 5E game regarding a use of Prestidigitation. The argument was that since it could create a Non-Magical Trinket, and Music Boxes are ...
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Is it appropriate to disallow the players building the world?

I finally made it to host my first session of DnD. We had a lot of fun and no one appeared to be one of all these kinds of problem players I read here about every now and then. All had fun and told me ...
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How can I avoid players spending too much time planning?

Several times when I have played in or ran a game in which the players had an objective and reasonable resources, a lot of (real) time was spent trying to plan for every contingency. For example, ...
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How to help players settle down and focus?

We have a weekly game in the evenings; however, we often don't start playing for a few hours after we get together, if at all. This has been exacerbated recently by other events with the same people ...
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My players insist that I use “rule zero” for their benefit. How do I get them to accept that I don't want easier house rules?

I would like to know, why it makes practical sense to have rule zero. I'm not an experienced RPG player, but we play a lot of board games with friends, and what I noticed, is that players often want ...
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My DM is my roommate and not a good DM… help?

My roommate is currently running a Final Fantasy X campaign, and my fiancée and I are both in it, along with his wife and two other friends. So far, this DM has: Railroaded both my and my fiancée's ...
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What to do when your character gets stabbed in the back by the whole party? [closed]

I'm fairly new to playing D&D. I played a few games with my husband. This is the first game I have played where he was not a player or the DM. I am running a Paladin (of Mask the god of ...
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How to deal with players breaking the game mood by overplaying their characters

Following this question Imagine, that you are trying to create a dark and scary situation: haunted mansion, spooky forest, ancient crypt... There is something out there that definitely is malevolent ...
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What problems should I expect when running Apocalypse World as an “open party” game?

Many of my friends who play or would like to play RPGs have too tight schedules for a single long campaign, but want more continuity than what a single one-shot game would allow. I've been thinking of ...
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Any advice on how to politely approach a friend on problems with her character(s)?

I've been playing with a good friend of mine for a couple of games now (Exalted and Pathfinder) with another friend as GM. In a few weeks, I'm going to be running a new game because the GM is getting ...
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How do I approach my DM about toning down the game's lethality? [closed]

I am a new D&D player with a group of 4 players with level 4 characters. Every session at least one and sometimes two of the party end up unconscious and close to dying, and at the end of the ...
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Two players are leaving, and there are conflicting desires for what to do with their PCs. How do I make everyone happy? [closed]

In the D&D group I currently GM, a couple players left recently, and I've been wondering how exactly to handle the situation. The two who left did so on rather negative terms with at least seven ...
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How to deal with a group reluctant to think and discuss? [closed]

Here at RPG.SE we form a quite specific bunch. We discuss social-contract or group-dynamics, we use terms like "player agency" or "emergent settings". We approach the hobby at an intellectual level, ...
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How do I get less attached to my characters?

In terms of my preferences, I tend to like a balance between story and dice-rolling, and write 1-2 page backstories for my characters. I also like a cinematic style where failure means a temporary ...
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What planning and division of labour is necessary to have two GMs in a campaign?

One time, me and one of my groups had decided to play an entire weekend. But on the first day one of the players, who also alternates as GM with our standard GM, sacrificed himself to save the group. ...
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The group I DM for insists on rolled stats, but I don't want unbalanced PCs to cause group conflicts later

I'm going to be running a new campaign for my players, with our session 0 starting tomorrow. I was leaning towards the traditional ability score method of generation (roll 4d6, drop the lowest). I ...
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How do I deal with a member of my party who attacks me whenever I cast a spell?

I'm new to D&D and so are the friends I play it with. My character is a Chaotic Evil Pact of the Tome Warlock. One of my party members is a Lawful Neutral Warrior, and in his backstory he ...
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Can I be a follower of an evil god and not be evil?

I'm playing a warlock, a follower of the old god Cthulhu (chaotic evil). My character is chaotic neutral, and has been doing some not-so-neutral things (in my opinion). My patron god is a big part of ...
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How can I run a game of D&D sporadically?

I recently started running a game of D&D 5e for 4 brand-new roleplayers. I designed a short adventure to introduce them to RPGs and to the D&D system and they enjoyed it a lot and wanted more. ...
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Problems with Party Formation: “You're the DM, you can figure it out.”

Sort of related to Is it wrong to ask a player to justify their character's actions? Scenario Player 1 wants to be a male drow necromancer that reveres Kiaransalee. Player 2 wants to be a male ...
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Sacrificing character integrity for the gameplay? [closed]

Allow me to share an example, so that we can all be on the same page here: Player A Is playing a paladin character that believes in always doing the right thing. And Player A loves to RP as this ...
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What are the advantages and disadvantages of Player-driven versus GM-driven mechanics in Pathfinder

According to some people: Players shouldn't state the skill they want to use for a given situation, they should state their intentions. As the Game Master, you know how that intended action can be ...
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I'm the Teamleader (not GM) and one of my Team members is a total jerk

I'm the leader with a total of 4 (included me) man group which 2 of the member agree me as the leader. Even the name of the group is related to my own name. One of my Members is a reaaaal jerk (...
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How do you stop a group fight?

Recently in my campaign, the party was hired to deliver a shady package to a mysterious spy. Of course the group opened it and found a rare and powerful gem with the eternal soul of Tiamat inside. One ...
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Whose job is it to make the game interesting?

My Dungeon Master has made his own story and he asked how it was. I criticized him about his story only being interesting for one character (that has a massive amount of backstory and was made with ...
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How to play a shy character and still get involved in play

If it helps, a bit of background: I recently started playing a game of Savage Worlds. In this game our characters are a group of misfits at a high school in America that are kinda like the gang in ...
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How can I rescue the game when the player characters refuse to work together?

I am a Game Master, and the characters in my group have started to regularly split up. The group's mage has always been a summoner and recently started summoning smaller demons. The fighter's player ...
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Is starting a group with 5 newbies (DM included) possible?

Some friends and I want to start playing D&D (5e), but none of us, DM included (not me) have played before to any great extent. The DM and I have some cursory experience with 4e, but have never ...
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How can I find out the best style of play for the people in my group? (Asking isn't working.)

Lately, I've realized that most of the players in my D&D 5e custom story group that I am the DM of are not as engaged as they could be in the game. When I ask them how each really wants to play ...
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How to assign PCs differing goals without breaking up the group?

In this question I describe my intention of running a courtly intrigue game where player characters have different goals: To keep the group coherent, I would like to give them two sets of goals - ...
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Group social issues when roleplaying as the opposite gender

Some time ago I was thinking of a character for a system (which I won't mention, to avoid any bias) who was of the opposite gender. I'm fairly convinced that it's because of the characters background, ...
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How can I help my players be interested in others' characters?

In asking this question I realized something that I never have before: my players aren't interested in each other's characters. How can I, as DM but also game session organizer and facilitator, help ...
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How to transform a bunch of strangers into a friendly group?

I am about to start a game with a bunch of strangers. I posted a flyer in a friendly local game shop (FLGS) and some folks responded enthusiastically. I talked a little bit to them about what sort of ...
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What to do when you seem like you do not fit in with a group?

I'm looking for some advice and input on a situation I've found myself in as a player. To give a little background, my gaming group (4 men, 2 women, between the ages of 25 and 32) is about to end a ...
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How to talk about reducing the numbers of our current group

We have a Pathfinder group that consists of 11 people, and has been like that for a few years now. In the beginning we had a great time with such a large group and didn't mind the number, but ...
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How can I allow one character to sneak off and assassinate an NPC without boring the other players?

Setup In my campaign, one of the PCs is an assassin. Before the game started, I gave the player a list of assassination targets. One of the targets happens to be friends with the party's warlord. It'...
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What techniques can help players reach consensus quickly on group actions?

A frequent problem in my D&D 5E group (4-6 players plus DM) is prolonged discussion about group actions. Upon reaching a point where the group has to make a decision, players will argue about the ...
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Alternating GM/Campaigns within the same group? [closed]

This question gave me some ideas regarding my current gaming group. I was introduced to D&D roughly a year ago before graduation, so shortly after getting into it everyone involved went separate ...
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How do I cater to the Three Stooges and good roleplayers at the same time?

As a little background, in case it matters: most of the players in my group (but not all) are college aged, and all of them are personal friends of mine. We're playing D&D 3.5. I myself am the ...
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How do you resolve conflict when an absent player's character is played “differently” by another player?

A problem that can arise when not everyone can make it to the table is that someone running the absent person's character may make choices or decisions that are either out of character, don't sit well ...
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How to deal with feuding characters derailing the game?

I started a weekly Shadowrun campaign a month and a half ago, and two of my players' characters have decided they hate each other. It started out with frequent in-character name calling which was ...
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How can I pitch a player-defined campaign to gamers who are used to GM-defined games?

I am about to (in a couple of weeks) pitch a game I want to GM to a small crowd of people. There is more than one challenge to it, since it's a real-life example. I am a non-student member of a local ...
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How should I go about stabbing my friend in the back? [closed]

I'll let that title sit there for a second while I explain my situation. So, first off - recently the DM let slip that his current campaign is loosely based on the Star Wars trilogy (which one though,...
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How do I deal with aggressive/disrespectful criticism?

This problem hit me as both a Storyteller and as player. I joined a "Survival Horror" game of Vampire: the Masquerade; a minor encounter spiraled out of control in the second session. The GM gave us a ...
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Is the same page tool overkill for brand new players?

I'm about to run the D&D 5e starter set for a group, most of which are entirely new to RPGs. The Same Page Tool looks like a great resource for a new group playing together, but not necessarily ...
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Asking people to leave the group [duplicate]

I'm just going to get straight to the point I recently just finished DMing a short campaign that hadn't gone as well as I hoped but people still seemed to enjoy themselves and want to play again! ...
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Getting my group to commit to house rules?

Our group has been playing RPGs in changing formations for the last 10 years or more. We have played many different systems, but some of them we always eventually return to (Rolemaster/MERP, Star Wars ...
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How can I make the most out of a reliable, close, helpful player in a group of players new to the system?

I have little experience GMing Fate. In fact, my only experience so far is a "twosie"/one-on-one one-shot with my best friend, Z. I've been researching an enormous amount of materials, as well as ...
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How do I get players to invest in their character concept and stop making new PCs?

I have been playing in a specific group for some time now. I now am in a position where I am going to be the GM once more. However I have a recurring problem with the players continuously switching ...
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Dealing with a Diva Player

A friend of mine has started preparing a pbp Mutants & Masterminds campaign, and one of their players is someone I know to be problematic. Already, the player has started to show signs of being ...