The social aspects of role-playing games.

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How do I, as a DM, help a girl integrate into a group of all male role-players? [closed]

We have recently had an addition to our gaming group. She is very bright and has picked up the rules quickly and seems to have enjoyed herself. We have had one session with her involved and she has ...
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Should a GM seek to share costs? [closed]

After the release of D&D 5e and reading through all the advice on the exchange me and a couple of friends decided to start running weekly sessions, I paid for most of the initial materials (map, ...
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How valid is lying to players about the rolls they are making in The Dresden Files?

In last weeks Dresden Files game, the players followed the bad guy using a tracking spell, and found him in the projects at an apartment that they knew little about. Seeing his car, they decided to ...
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How to behave in the first session?

For the first time I have been invited in a group where I don't know almost anybody (it's me and a friend of mine and random people we met in a game association). Since I have social anxiety I am ...
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What real world skills can RPGs improve?

What real world skills can be improved by playing Role-playing games? What skills have you or others in your experience improved through gaming?
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How to encourage the GM-curious?

I have a couple of players who might be interested to try GMing, but have so far been reluctant to "take the plunge" and start up their own games. I think this is mostly because they're not sure that ...
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Remind players of critical information that would be obvious to the characters?

To make a long story short, a campaign I was playing in [as play-per-mail] has come to a standstill. The cause of this is the following: My character dove into the river, to retrieve something that ...
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How do I deal with an experienced player who doesn't interact well with my group?

My group and I just migrated from a DM whose very incongruent storytelling and deliberate punishment of non-hack & slay-solutions scared us off. We (mostly) kept our characters (since they are our ...
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As a player, how can I help other players explore their characters on a deeper level?

I'm playing in a group with a diverse group of players. Some have everything about their character planned (like myself and one other player), others came to the table with a concept and nothing else. ...
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How to deal with a quiet player?

I have an ongoing game of Mage: the Ascension. While everything is going quite OK and I am pretty happy about what is going on around the table, I noticed that one of my players is a bit quiet and ...
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Can rules changes fix interpersonal problems at the table?

Can rules tweaks help deal with some of the common interpersonal problems at the gaming table? For example: Someone is not really interested in the game, and reads and ignores play until they ...
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How can I get fellow Paranoia players to betray each other?

I played Paranoia relatively recently, and I was the only person who was plotting anyone else's downfall, despite someone else having orders to kill me. By the end of the game, I had yet to die (or be ...
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Player/DM who is having trouble letting go of an old campaign

I'm part of a group of 3 (relatively new) people playing an RPG called Challenger. All three of us are interested in being GM, so we've been rotating; all of our adventures occur in the same universe, ...
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How can I deal with a “goof-ball” player in my WoD group?

I am a storyteller in a World of Darkness group, and I'm about to start designing a new scenario. However one of my players (let's call him Eric) is worrying me. Eric usually goes the goofball route ...
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How can a GM calm down the group when they're chatty? [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: When and how should I get the players to cut back on their out of character chatter? Now and then the groups I play in or GM can get rather chatty. They're talking and ...
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Out-Of-Control Characters [closed]

As I review the suggestions in the D&D 4E DMG (pg32), I wonder what other suggestions that are realistic. I know that if a player is out of control (ie: killing masses for no reason) a DM would ...
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Finding time to play

How do people find time to play an RPG with friends, around work, study and partners? I've a preference for weekly play but I just can't find the time to dedicate to roleplaying anymore. And when I ...
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Roleplaying game without (first person) violence? [closed]

Most roleplaying games include weapons, and hurting, and killing (and looting!). Moreover, some (if not most) systems seem to be made for that. However (though I do enjoy such games), I'm trying to ...
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How to cut back on pre-game joking?

When preparing for a new game (be it a one shot or a campaign) our party, yours truly included, often slips into a humorous mode. It's usually light-hearted fun, and most of us like it, but some, ...
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How do I handle a player who plays his character far differently than the character was originally presented?

I'm not asking how to make every character be played as I would play them. I'm asking how to handle a situation in which the character that the player presents to me as a GM (with complete back-story, ...
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How do I, a novice GM, deal with a PC who is constantly difficult?

I have a good friend playing in my game, but he's done things like: Killing NPCs which direct the story, effectively ruining the rest of the group's chances. Spending all of his money on inane items ...
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Dealing with a Diva Player

A friend of mine has started preparing a pbp Mutants & Masterminds campaign, and one of their players is someone I know to be problematic. Already, the player has started to show signs of being ...
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Eye Contact as a Game Master's tool

Do you consciously use eye contact to help control or encourage players? When an extroverted or otherwise dominant player adversely affects the group experience, do you use eye contact to seize ...
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Looking for Role playing games with interesting social mechanics

Hopefully this produces some interesting sources for inspiration for my own designs: does anyone know of a system with an interesting take on handling social and similar situations, such as a debate ...
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What should the GM do when players constantly argue?

I've got a group that it seems no matter what I do, they always end up arguing about every single situation I put in front of them. This includes the more simplistic situations like, "Where do you ...
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How do I handle a PC to NPC romance?

Our group consists of two couples. One player seems to like romance (which is just fine). This player's character flirted with her husband's character; he played up the fact that his character was not ...
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Player Agenda - how to keep people happy at the table

There have been many attempts to classify player types and what they seek to get from play sessions. For instance this WotC marketing survery and this article on the RPGNET wiki on Creative Agenda. ...
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What to do with a mean Dungeon Master? [closed]

Myself and a few other people are in a Pathfinder group where our original DM was wanting to play. So he gave the DM duties to one of the players. That player turned out to be a controlling, mean DM ...
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What career options are available for a role playing game addict? [closed]

What, if any, careers are there out there that are built around playing role-playing games for a living? That is, jobs which go beyond supporting the addiction ;)
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How can I create a more serious atmosphere when playing with siblings?

At our gaming table the players are always making jokes, and some make nonsense noises for some strange reason. My players generally act like hooligans. Getting a new group is not an option – they're ...
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How to do I show my players it's their own damn fault, without making them feel bad?

Somewhat related to my other question. At this point, the players in my game have travelled through a Kobold Empire. They have killed Ogres for them. They have slain a Dragon and given them back ...
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How to handle plates and drinks on the game table?

We are a group of 5 plus a game master. We play around a table, that is roughly capable of fitting our inventory: character sheets, game world map, area map by the game master, dice. The first ...
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Giving Players the Game They Want

Currently I am running a game of Legend of the Five Rings, 4th Edition that is an extension of my 3rd Ed campaign. The current setting is a courtly endeavor, which dredges up certain problems. When ...
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How can I encourage my group to seek success, rather than entertaining failure?

Our weekly group has a tendency toward playing into escalating spirals of self destruction, regardless of the system or genre. Players will look for opportunities to fail, or to set up other player's ...
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How do I catch a Player Character up to the rest of the group after returning from an extended hiatus?

This is somewhat similar to "How do you deal with missing players?", but I'm looking to address slightly different issues. Also, this query is about longer breaks than the one or two sessions ...
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How do you keep the book keeping/game management work balanced between players?

For most games, the work required in running a game is, by default, distributed unevenly between a "master" and the "player characters". In our group, many/most of the group members have had ...
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How can I make the most out of a reliable, close, helpful player in a group of players new to the system?

I have little experience GMing Fate. In fact, my only experience so far is a "twosie"/one-on-one one-shot with my best friend, Z. I've been researching an enormous amount of materials, as well as ...
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How do I get players to invest in their character concept and stop making new PCs?

I have been playing in a specific group for some time now. I now am in a position where I am going to be the GM once more. However I have a recurring problem with the players continuously switching ...
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How to deal with rude players? [duplicate]

The Situation I am Co-GM'ing in a group of 7 players - 6 male, 1 female. One of the male players is constantly making sexist remarks, such as "I'm gonna f_ck some b_tches when we get back to town" or ...
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Mitigating conflict in a 'mixed' nWoD game

The last (and only) time I ran a mixed game (containing Changeling, Mage and Vampire characters) for nWoD, I explained at length that nWoD started with a clean sheet and no one 'instinctively' hated ...
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What techniques do you use for integrating new players into your campaign?

So, you've found a new player, someone you don't know well or perhaps don't know at all. You have a slot in your ongoing campaign. How do you do it? Do you make sure she's a good fit before inviting ...
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How to gather a group of players in a foreign country?

I am a person who has to relocate a lot due to employment reasons. I tried to build English-playing groups with little or no success. In some cases, I was able to gather only one person or two. Only ...
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Is it normal for others to use a player's character when the player's absent?

I'm a new and inexperienced player in a weekly game with some old friends, and I've missed a few sessions. (We were supposed to game 2 Saturdays per month but this was changed to every Saturday.) My ...
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What is the feasability of having substitute players?

I'm currently playing in a D&D:Next game using Roll20. The group is supposed to meet every Friday night, but invariably, somebody can't make it. If more than just one or two people are ...
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What is usually listed as evidence that RPGs are inherently a 2+ person activity? [closed]

I often see some people in the table top RPG claim that RPGs are inherently social. As such, the claim is used to invalidate the existence of solitaire rpg'ing, computer RPGs as "real rpgs", etc. I ...
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What is best practice for auditioning a prospective new player?

Continuing on this question how is the best way to set up an auditioning session? What gamewise should you do differently? What are the expectations on the group and the potential new person? What is ...
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Powergamer to Roleplayer [closed]

I would classify myself as a powergamer. Most of the characters that I make are carefully optimized and crafted. However, the most "Fun" I ever had in a game was when my character was not optimized ...
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How can I pitch a player-defined campaign to gamers who are used to GM-defined games?

I am about to (in a couple of weeks) pitch a game I want to GM to a small crowd of people. There is more than one challenge to it, since it's a real-life example. I am a non-student member of a local ...
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Is it rude to request multiple signatures at a gamebook signing event?

Later on this week I'll be attending a book signing event with the author of the Lone Wolf game book series Joe Dever. The event coincides with the publication (whether entirely new or simply ...
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How to deal with stubborn player who does not participate in missions? [duplicate]

One of the members of our group likes to choose characters with personal agendas or secret motives that prevent him from cooperating with the rest of the team. He will sit out of missions entirely if ...