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I've got an answer for your problem, which I will address first, and then something for you. Yay! Group Effort This is the one avenue it looks like you haven't taken. You know you haven't taken it, and it seems you're reluctant to do so. Likely because, even if you did get the others behind you, this person would act out, become sullen, and maybe increase ...


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You really have two problems here, disguised as one. One is the game time problem of how to mesh what you want out a gaming experience with this kid and two is how to handle group conflict in a passive group that considers the cohesion of the group more important than the game. I'm gonna start with number 2. You say you can't kick him out because it will ...


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It may be the case that you need to be cruel to be kind. This has only happened to be once as a DM where a character wouldn't listen to my rulings as a DM. First I asked him if he would be willing to DM, to show me how it should be done, but he refused. After that I told him he'd either have to accept that when I said "it's X and that's the end of it", he ...


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Stop playing. Here are the constraints you've put on this answer: Player X makes this activity not-fun. Player X will not stop making this activity not-fun. Player X cannot be excluded from this activity. If these constraints are real, you should stop doing that activity. Do something different instead; whether that means movie night, or a different ...


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To your point there are loads of questions about group dynamics on RPG.SE and a lot of them boil down to talk to the player. IMO the reason they boil down to having an honest conversation is because the goal for everyone is to have fun. If someone isn't enjoying themselves it can often be because of a disconnect between their expectations and those of the ...


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One of the jobs of the DM is to create a situation where everyone can have fun. It sounds like your campaign is failing to allow this particular player to have fun in the way he wants. He seems to want to feel like a badass that can handle anything, while you have to keep your game balanced and fair. The way I handle these sorts of players (and I have a ...


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You're the GM and if his "play style" is incompatible with yours, and the other players are fine with your style, as you describe, don't enable him and let his controlling behavior emotionally blackmail you into changing the way you run your game. Just run your play style and let him deal with it. If he can't handle it, he can leave. That is NOT "rude" nor "...


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Change your Play-Style Beyond the obvious choice to boot him or talk to him -- since you've said these are not an option -- you can change your play-style to match his. This is the humble approach and it requires the biting of tongues and more than likely his being cool about it. I want to be clear here, this option is putting this player's wants before ...


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Ultimately, your options are to get your player to change their behavior, mitigate the negative effects of their behavior if they refuse to change, or kick them out. Getting Them To Change Their Behavior You mentioned that you tried talking to this player, to no effect. I don't know the specifics of how you went about this discussion, but it is possible ...



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