Timeline for The other players in my D&D party keep ignoring me. How can I get the other players and DM to consider my input equally?
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| May 2, 2019 at 11:00 | comment | added | rptb1 | I've had to deal with this kind of problem in real-life work situations. It's the reponsibility of the "chair" of a meeting to make sure quieter people get heard. Ideally they'll do that job well. But if they don't then you need to make sure they know that they're failing to do it well. Sometimes you have to get loud, cross, or upset to get people to realise it's serious. That's hard for a quiet and introverted person. Real friends will deal with it. Real friends will care. Good luck! | |
| May 2, 2019 at 10:42 | comment | added | slug_meat | @linksassin Thanks for the advice! I'll be sure to wait a lil longer next time, to give people a lil chance to answer :") | |
| Apr 30, 2019 at 14:33 | comment | added | Ethan The Brave | +1 Agree the GM should take more responsibility for this. At my table I sometimes have to awkwardly force myself to not so much as look at player B because player A was talking and will get talked-over. If I refuse to acknowledge the offender or, even more, actively tell them to stop while I hear the other person out, it tends to do a lot to quell the behavior (for a while, anyway). We all get a bit heated and excited when playing, so I get it. | |
| Apr 30, 2019 at 11:41 | comment | added | Joel Harmon | @slug_meat as a quick addendum to linksassin's comment: you can also unaccept an answer at any time, and then accept an answer (the same one or different). | |
| Apr 30, 2019 at 10:09 | comment | added | Jack V. | Maybe try speaking up OUT of character. If, as a player, you're ok with the ridiculous plan, say, "hey, someone needs to talk CHARACTERNAME into this". If you're not, make objection known. If you constantly want different things and can't agree on a course of action for the party, even out of character, you maybe just want to play different games. If they recognise that, it's a problem with mismatch. If they STILL talk over you, they're just bad at including you, play character who fits with their style or find a new group :( | |
| Apr 30, 2019 at 6:59 | comment | added | Kyyshak | @slug_meat: Whether they mean it or not, your friends are hurting you with their behaviour, and will continue to do so until the problem is resolved. If you have to hurt their feelings a little bit to find a solution to this, then they will still have suffered less than you could have by allowing the situation to continue indefinitely. | |
| Apr 30, 2019 at 5:19 | history | edited | Ben | CC BY-SA 4.0 |
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| Apr 30, 2019 at 3:55 | comment | added | linksassin♦ | @slug_meat While it's great that this answer helped you, it can often be a good idea to wait 24 hours to accept an answer. This encourages more people to answer and you may get one you like more. This isn't a rule though and you are free to accept any answer you like at any time. Just letting you know since you are new here. | |
| Apr 30, 2019 at 3:43 | comment | added | slug_meat | You're completely right :") Thank you! | |
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| Apr 30, 2019 at 3:42 | comment | added | Ben | It doesn't have to be a confrontation. It's a conversation, about how everyone is interacting with the game. If you are all friends, I'm sure they'd be willing to listen to you. Talk to them outside of the game, maybe before the game starts, and tell them that you have an issue with how you are all playing the game. | |
| Apr 30, 2019 at 3:40 | comment | added | slug_meat | That's exactly it- in reference to my RP having an effect! My only issue with confronting all of them is hurting any of them with said confrontation. They're all my friends and I'd hate to upset them. Especially since I don't really know how to go about talking to them about it in the first place. Thank you so much for the answer!! | |
| Apr 30, 2019 at 3:34 | history | edited | Ben | CC BY-SA 4.0 |
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| Apr 30, 2019 at 3:19 | history | answered | Ben | CC BY-SA 4.0 |