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We're not sure if you read the situation correctly either

Sorry, but I don't believe this question can be effectively answered in this format.

Was he really being rude, or were you being overly defensive? There's no way for us to know. We can read between the lines (cancelling your game over his concerns seems a little over-touchy, so there is a warning sign there) but there's really not enough information or context for us to know for sure.

Are you aspiring to run a game like his, or not really? You talk about being new and it's unclear whether you see your different game style as a desirable target style or just as all you can manage at the moment. Should you learn to take criticism better and be learning from him even if he doesn't express himself the way you'd like? Would that help you achieve your goals?

What is the guy like other than that? Is he a jerk in general? Does he have Aspergers (some folks consider this an excuse for acting in a manner offensive to others, other folks don't)?

  How is he part of the social circle - are there other problems fromwith disinviting him (or yourself) with the rest of the gaming group>group?

All of this could require 10 pages of writing from you and 100 questions from us to unpack. So the best you can get is very generic advice.

The Generic Advice For Any Problem-X Question

  1. Make sure you're contributing as little ofto the problem as possible yourself.
  2. Understand your goals, the social context, and how the "problem" person fits into them
  3. Use interpersonal skills and/or personal mental coping mechanisms to try to interact positively with them
  4. If it's personallybecome a net negative to you, given your goals and how intolerable their behavior is, avoid gaming and/or interaction with them.

A book could be written on any of these points (and many have been). Are you "right?" There is no right in this situation. Are you "justified?" That's pure personal opinion. These kinds of things happen, sometimes you can say you're blameless and sometimes you can't, sometimes you can take actions to fix it short of dissociating with them and sometimes you can't.

We're not sure if you read the situation correctly either

Sorry, but I don't believe this question can be effectively answered in this format.

Was he really being rude, or were you being overly defensive? There's no way for us to know. We can read between the lines (cancelling your game over his concerns seems a little over-touchy, so there is a warning sign there) but there's really not enough information.

Are you aspiring to run a game like his, or not really? You talk about being new and it's unclear whether you see your different game style as a desirable style or just all you can manage at the moment. Should you learn to take criticism better and be learning from him even if he doesn't express himself the way you'd like? Would that help you achieve your goals?

What is the guy like other than that? Is he a jerk in general? Does he have Aspergers (some folks consider this an excuse for acting in a manner offensive to others, other folks don't)?

  How is he part of the social circle - are there other problems from disinviting him with the rest of the gaming group>

All of this could require 10 pages of writing from you and 100 questions from us to unpack. So the best you can get is very generic advice.

The Generic Advice For Any Problem-X Question

  1. Make sure you're as little of the problem as possible.
  2. Understand your goals, the social context, and how the person fits into them
  3. Use interpersonal skills and/or personal mental coping mechanisms to try to interact positively with them
  4. If it's personally a net negative to you, given your goals and how intolerable their behavior is, avoid gaming and/or interaction with them.

A book could be written on any of these points (and many have been). Are you "right?" There is no right in this situation. Are you "justified?" That's pure personal opinion. These kinds of things happen, sometimes you can say you're blameless and sometimes you can't, sometimes you can take actions to fix it short of dissociating with them and sometimes you can't.

We're not sure if you read the situation correctly either

Sorry, but I don't believe this question can be effectively answered in this format.

Was he really being rude, or were you being overly defensive? There's no way for us to know. We can read between the lines (cancelling your game over his concerns seems a little over-touchy, so there is a warning sign there) but there's really not enough information or context for us to know for sure.

Are you aspiring to run a game like his, or not really? You talk about being new and it's unclear whether you see your different game style as a desirable target style or just as all you can manage at the moment. Should you learn to take criticism better and be learning from him even if he doesn't express himself the way you'd like? Would that help you achieve your goals?

What is the guy like other than that? Is he a jerk in general? Does he have Aspergers (some folks consider this an excuse for acting in a manner offensive to others, other folks don't)? How is he part of the social circle - are there other problems with disinviting him (or yourself) with the rest of the gaming group?

All of this could require 10 pages of writing from you and 100 questions from us to unpack. So the best you can get is very generic advice.

The Generic Advice For Any Problem-X Question

  1. Make sure you're contributing as little to the problem as possible yourself.
  2. Understand your goals, the social context, and how the "problem" person fits into them
  3. Use interpersonal skills and/or personal mental coping mechanisms to try to interact positively with them
  4. If it's become a net negative to you, given your goals and how intolerable their behavior is, avoid gaming and/or interaction with them.

A book could be written on any of these points (and many have been). Are you "right?" There is no right in this situation. Are you "justified?" That's pure personal opinion. These kinds of things happen, sometimes you can say you're blameless and sometimes you can't, sometimes you can take actions to fix it short of dissociating with them and sometimes you can't.

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We're not sure if you read the situation correctly either

Sorry, but I don't believe this question can be effectively answered in this format.

Was he really being rude, or were you being overly defensive? There's no way for us to know. We can read between the lines (cancelling your game over his concerns seems a little over-touchy, so there is a warning sign there) but there's really not enough information.

Are you aspiring to run a game like his, or not really? You talk about being new and it's unclear whether you see your different game style as a desirable style or just all you can manage at the moment. Should you learn to take criticism better and be learning from him even if he doesn't express himself the way you'd like? Would that help you achieve your goals?

What is the guy like other than that? Is he a jerk in general? Does he have Aspergers (some folks consider this an excuse for acting in a manner offensive to others, other folks don't)?

How is he part of the social circle - are there other problems from disinviting him with the rest of the gaming group>

All of this could require 10 pages of writing from you and 100 questions from us to unpack. So the best you can get is very generic advice.

The Generic Advice For Any Problem-X Question

  1. Make sure you're as little of the problem as possible.
  2. Understand your goals, the social context, and how the person fits into them
  3. Use interpersonal skills and/or personal mental coping mechanisms to try to interact positively with them
  4. If it's personally a net negative to you, given your goals and how intolerable their behavior is, avoid gaming and/or interaction with them.

A book could be written on any of these points (and many have been). Are you "right?" There is no right in this situation. Are you "justified?" That's pure personal opinion. These kinds of things happen, sometimes you can say you're blameless and sometimes you can't, sometimes you can take actions to fix it short of dissociating with them and sometimes you can't.