Just wanted a general opinion on something, so I’ve been DMing for the past 6 months or so after our original DM had left our group (4 people). I had homebrewed a world of my own creation etc and my group loved.

Fast forward to present, we’ve had one addition to our group and two more joining on after asking the group about what they thought. Regularly playing sessions at my PCs(husband & wife) house, Unfortunately, I had said something which was interpreted as sexist against the female player of the group where I asked two of the original male players to help out. To which the husband said, “My wife is pretty good at help out too.” I apologised and said I assumed they were most experienced out of our group.

Of course, this had not been said with any malice or sexism involved. The next day, the husband comes to me and says we are pulling and explains to me that his wife did not appreciated the comment I made. I had immediately apologise and said I did not mean anything by it. Having that said, the husband goes on to say that there were other things involved I.e. she did not feel appreciated. Of course, I had no idea and had always tried to communicate with the players in the sense how they were or if there was anything wrong that I could help out with.

At no point did she reach out to me and say, “Hi, there’s a couple of things I need to talk to you about.” I had sent an apology as soon as I could to her explaining everything but at last there was no response.

This news hit me like a ton of bricks and now I’m a dilemma of should I continue the campaign with the group where there’s only one of the original members left and what will be three newish players?

Any advice would be great.


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    \$\begingroup\$ Closed for being just opinion. Some folks would shutter the game, many would continue, it’s nothing but a judgement call for you and your players with no right answers. \$\endgroup\$ – mxyzplk Nov 24 '18 at 17:34

I'd say that the answer depends mostly on one thing: do you and your remaining four players feel like continuing the campaign?

If you do, then go ahead. Invent an explanation as to why the characters of the two players who left aren't with the group anymore; avoid killing them though, it's usually bad form to do so; and keep going if you want to and you're still having fun together.

Also, from what you describe, it seems that there has been a communication breakdown on the part of the female player. So, I wouldn't feel too bad about it, it seems you gave her many opportunities to talk and she chose to keep it bottled inside until that incident made her decide to pull out.

  • \$\begingroup\$ He only has one original player left. Thou he doesn't say how much of the campaign the add ons did. \$\endgroup\$ – ravery Nov 24 '18 at 14:46
  • \$\begingroup\$ @Sava Understood, comment removed. \$\endgroup\$ – KorvinStarmast Nov 24 '18 at 14:49
  • \$\begingroup\$ @ravery He has four players: one old player left and three newish players. See the last sentence: "the group where there’s only one of the original members left and what will be three newish players?" \$\endgroup\$ – Sava Nov 24 '18 at 14:49
  • \$\begingroup\$ @sava to clarify, one of the newish players has been with us for three to four sessions whilst the other two are literally about to start with us. Hence why there’s only one original member of the group left \$\endgroup\$ – ErebusBlade Nov 24 '18 at 18:33

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