Yes, You can use a different modifier for each roll.
Basic English Ambiguity
There are three cases that are hard to describe concisely and unambiguously in English:
1.)
You can use Dexterity instead of strength for attack rolls and damage rolls (you must use the same for both for a single attack).
2.)
You can use Dexterity instead of strength for attack rolls and (as an independent choice) you can use Dexterity instead of strength for damage rolls.
3.)
You can use Dexterity instead of strength for attack rolls or damage rolls (but not both for a single attack).
Without additional context, the phrasing
You can use Dexterity instead of Strength for the attack and damage rolls <...>
could be interpreted as either 1.) or 2.) above.
If it used or instead, it would still be ambiguous, and without additional context
You can use Dexterity instead of Strength for the attack or damage rolls of your unarmed strikes and monk weapons
it could be interpreted as either 2.) or 3.) above, but we couldn't distinguish between the "Inclusive Or" (A or B or both) and the "Exclusive Or" (A or B but not both).
DnD Specific Context
To resolve this question then, we need to look at what DnD 5e typically means when it uses these words in other places where its less ambiguous, and use that information to determine a result here.
And/Or In the Rules
One common way to indicate the inclusive or (one or the other or both) is to use "and/or". This phrase did not appear anywhere in the Basic Rules, so they must be using either "and" or "or" by itself.
This supports the idea that "and" might mean "one or the other or both"
Or Elsewhere in the Rules
To help us resolve the ambiguity, we need to look at how "and" and "or" are used elsewhere in the rules.
From the (basic rules) it's clear that "or" is commonly used as the "exclusive or", that is, to indicate you can do one thing, or the other thing, but not both.
You start with the following equipment, in addition to the
equipment granted by your background: <...> (a) a mace or (b) a warhammer (if proficient)
and
When you reach 4th level, and again at 8th, 12th, 16th,
and 19th level, you can increase one ability score of your
choice by 2, or you can increase two ability scores of your
choice by 1.
In both of these cases, it's pretty clear you're not starting with a mace or a warhammer or both, and it's pretty clear you're not improving one ability score by 2 or 2 by 1 or both.
This supports the idea they would have only written the ability as "You can use Dexterity instead of Strength for Attack Rolls or Damage Rolls" if they meant you can use it for one or the other, but not both.
And Elsewhere in The Rules
Again from the Basic Rules:
Forage. The character can keep an eye out for ready sources of food and water
Here and clearly means "The character can keep an eye out for ready sources of food. He can also keep an eye out for ready sources of water." It does not mean he can only spot sources which provide both.
This weakens the argument that "and" by itself is sufficient to mean the ability applies to everything or nothing
Finesse Weapons
As you noted in the question, the very similar text for Finesse Weapons feels the need to specifically add
You must use the same modifier for both rolls.
This weakens the argument that "and" by itself is sufficient to mean the ability applies to everything or nothing
Final Ruling (w/ Caveat)
Note: I skimmed the basic rules for the most common usage of "and" and "or", trying to remain unbiased and inserted what I considered "typical" examples of their usage. An exhaustive or statistically significant comparison might find the actual most common usage is different from what I found.
Considering the way the Basic Rules use "and" and "or", I believe RAW a monk could use Dexterity for the attack roll, and Strength for a Damage Roll
Handy Interpretation Chart For Similar Situations
Inclusive Or
You can use for X and Y.
You can use for X. You can use for Y. You can use for both.
Exclusive Or
You can use for X or Y.
You can use for X. You can use for Y. You cannot use for both.
Both are Linked
You can use for X and Y. If you use for X, you must use it for Y (or similar language)
You can use for X if and only if you use for Y also. Cannot do one or the other.