I recently gained a new player who has autism and he is making it harder for me to make my campaign. I have never dealt with any like this and I don't know what I should do regarding his disability.

He sometimes has breakdowns when the other players do something like make a loud noise, he has breakdowns sometimes when his character gets damaged, and sometimes when he rolls low numbers (mostly 5 under).

I'd feel like a terrible person if I got rid of him and when he does contribute the campaign moves along nicely. I don't know whether to make rules for the group to follow or not.

I need to know ways to manage him without ruining the experience for the other players and avoiding the idea of kicking him from the group.

We're all basically in the high school age range and play after school together on school grounds. I don't have a relationship with the player's parents, just the player.

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    \$\begingroup\$ Related on How can I make things easier on my dyslexic and high functioning autistic player? \$\endgroup\$ – NautArch Dec 5 '19 at 14:43
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    \$\begingroup\$ This is essentially "What should I do?", which is too broad for us. Please clarify what kind of outcome you'd like to have here, and we can advise you on achieving it. I presume you'd like to have a happy healthy group including this player and would like to know how to support them, but if not, you'd need to clarify what other outcome you'd like. Please also expand on what difficulties you're having, and what kinds of situations occur that lead to them. “He has breakdowns from loud noises sometimes” is a start: please clarify what you mean by a breakdown, and what other stuff is going on. \$\endgroup\$ – doppelgreener Dec 5 '19 at 14:45
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    \$\begingroup\$ This question also runs the risk of "not a true autist" answer discussions, honestly. I have autism but I've never had a breakdown during D&D, it's something that has a huge spectrum and we don't really know anything about your players, so the only real advice anybody could give is "ask him", which is a bit of a copout answer. The interpersonal stackexchange however has a lot of questions on autism and triggers, so you might be able to ask this question there and get better instructions on how to properly format a question like this. \$\endgroup\$ – Theik Dec 5 '19 at 14:50
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    \$\begingroup\$ Note to answerers: Please note that this is a serious issue involving the mental health of a player. Please don't answer unless you have specific expertise with this kind of issue. \$\endgroup\$ – Rubiksmoose Dec 5 '19 at 16:37
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    \$\begingroup\$ When you say “breakdown” what specifically occurs? Does he cry, lash out, or become dispondent? \$\endgroup\$ – Amethyst Wizard Dec 5 '19 at 17:50

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