I am a relatively new roleplayer (been doing it for almost 5 months only) and I have just left my roleplay with the main group I joined. I was roleplaying in Terraria, by the way.

Why did this happen?

Well, things got awkward. Real awkward. it was supposed to be a war / drama server, but instead the war was completely halted and instead, there was what I can only consider a glorification of erotic role play (ERP) ripe with promiscuity and hedonism. While those interested in it were always, and I want this to be very clear, extremely respectful in how they did it — not even once have I seen ERP in public channels — the overall … "feel" of the server started to get really awkward for me. In the end, it was a situation that had my last living character likely getting involved into forced ERP — which again was very well respected, they even gave me the option to essentially disconnect and not really have to go through with the ERP itself — that overflowed my cup.

Because after that happened, and even though ERP didn't even canonically occur (with or without me present), I just feel very very uncomfortable playing my character.

In the end, I said my goodbyes and left the server a few hours ago, likely for a long time if not for good.

Is this a common problem? How do you more experienced folk handle unwanted ERP?

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    \$\begingroup\$ I made a meta for it, as I feel this question is on topic: meta.rpg.stackexchange.com/questions/6173/… \$\endgroup\$
    – Erik
    Commented Feb 29, 2016 at 16:10
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    \$\begingroup\$ If there isn't a GM or DM, and this is run in an electronic world, that does not necessarily disqualify this question as there are GM-less RPG's. This question looks related, but maybe not all that strongly. Most others address at table dynamics and not making people uncomfortable. \$\endgroup\$ Commented Feb 29, 2016 at 17:18
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    \$\begingroup\$ @user27601 It looks like your problem solved itself by you leaving the game. I am a little unclear what the problem is that you want solved in answering this question. Is it your intention to participate in such a game in the future, armed with (something) which you'll get from an expert/experienced answer here? \$\endgroup\$ Commented Feb 29, 2016 at 17:21
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    \$\begingroup\$ Definitely not the right close reason, but the question is unclear. Do you need help in declining unwanted RP? Coexisting with people doing RP that makes you uncomfortable while doing other types of RP? It sounds like ERP was a core focus of the server in question, in which case leaving was the best bet (as with any game whose core focus is something you don't want to do), but if you can be more specific, there may still be a question here. \$\endgroup\$
    – Pixie
    Commented Feb 29, 2016 at 21:10
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    \$\begingroup\$ @ThalesSarczuk I strongly disagree. The context does matter, and it is different. There's a huge difference between how you respond to unwanted ERP by random Internet strangers vs by people in the room with you who are (presumably) your friends. \$\endgroup\$
    – Oblivious Sage
    Commented Mar 5, 2016 at 2:05


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