Questions tagged [group-dynamics]

This tag is for game-participant dynamics including dealing with sensitive topics, managing group composition, and other table-level interactions. For questions dealing with the actual party of characters in the game, use the [party] tag.

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My own Party are ruining the game for me. What should I do?

In D&D I play a ranger who lost an eye in battle therefore having a disadvantage. Me and my party of 6 friends went inside a tavern to rest just before we went on our main quest together. In the ...
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How to manage players wanting to carry out opposing actions?

I need to pick your brains for experience in dealing with this sort of situation. So, in our campaign there was recently an occasion where a character interfered with another character's actions. [I ...
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How to deal with different levels of initiative and propensity to overtalk in a large group?

I recently started playing with a large group of about 7-8 people. I noticed that, in our group, a couple of the people are very active: whenever there is a chance for the group to do things, it only ...
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IC conflicts, OC hurt feelings, how did you overcome group conflicts as a player?

I'll try to not go too deep into detail and this might turn into a small rant, so sorry in advance. For easier reading I added some subtitles. ;-) Here is some context My group and I (4 players, ...
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How to keep specific players interested in an 8 person party?

I would like to avoid any "they should just leave" answers, as we all know that is obviously a possibility. We have an 8 person campaign for 5e, and it has been going on for about a year now. When we ...
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Is there always a “designated” person to lead/move the party?

After have played only a few session (actually 5 sessions of 2-4 hours) I've noticed something that I found quite strange. In our group we are 4 players: I (Newbie), A (Experienced), B (Newbie like me)...
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How to deal with DM favoritism toward a player who is able to silence other players in order to avoid being constantly overruled by the group?

I've been in a campaign for the past 4 months with a very controlling DM and a player who has been dubbed their favorite. The DM in question is very flexible with anything in their game... as long as ...
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How can we kick our novice roleplayer out of the group for being a poor match, without alienating them from the hobby?

I have someone in my group who is completely new to the hobby. We are now 12 sessions in, and I will most likely need to remove them from the group: Our play styles don't match, and the rest of the ...
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How do you balance a group with both charismatic players who enjoy role-playing and introverted players who don't?

I have been involved with RPGs in general for a long time, but have only been involved with tabletop RPGs (like D&D 5e, currently) for a year or so. In my current game (D&D 5e), I play a ...
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How can I as GM control off-topic moments and get the players to maintain a serious tone?

My friends and I started playing RPGs at the same time without the help of any experienced person. I am the GM but I struggle to make the players focus on anything that can progress the story in some ...
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How can I create a more serious atmosphere when playing with siblings?

At our gaming table the players are always making jokes, and some make nonsense noises for some strange reason. My players generally act like hooligans. Getting a new group is not an option – they're ...
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How do I quit a long-term game gracefully?

I've been in a game for a while and I've been distracted for several sessions because the game simply hasn't been very interesting to me. The setting and story set by the GM aren't very gripping and ...
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How to DM mind control effects without angering my friends?

I have a bit of a problem, particularly relating to a custom monster I created. D&D has a lot of effects and abilities that change a character's behavior, ranging from a simple intimidate check ...
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How can I pitch a player-defined campaign to gamers who are used to GM-defined games?

I am about to (in a couple of weeks) pitch a game I want to GM to a small crowd of people. There is more than one challenge to it, since it's a real-life example. I am a non-student member of a local ...
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Should I take a side in an external player conflict, or let my game die?

I'm the DM for a Homebrew campaign that I've been running for about 2 years. Our group is me plus four players and we've been lucky enough to meet fairly consistently on a weekly basis, so I'm loathe ...
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How to resolve fundamental differences in perspective between players and DM about the roles each has in decision making?

To give context: I am a DM running a D&D 5e campaign set in a home-brew setting for the better part of a year. A few months ago I suggested having an alternate "gaiden" style campaign set in the ...
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New girl gamer in our D&D group is causing weird tension - what to do?

I'm concerned because a new player just joined our D&D 5e group and is super flirty with all the male players (both in person and as her character - she's a bard). And the problem is that she's ...
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How can I know what type of fun my player is looking for?

Recently I've been reading some articles about the eight types of fun and how these are applied to tabletop roleplaying games. Even though I have been playing with the same people for quite a long ...
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Reward players for dumb actions regarding NPC interactions or not? [closed]

To setup the scene. In a political intrigue game (with fighting). The game was advertised where both elements can be of use but one or the other won't always net all the solutions when I pitched it to ...
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Practical use of the O-card, or how to measure positive consent on the fly

I'm preparing to run a game of Bluebeard's Bride with couple of players I don't know very well. This game can be quite heavy on disturbing content, so I certainly plan to have an X-card equivalent in ...
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I have a ruthless DM and I'm considering leaving the party. What are my options to minimize the negative impact to the rest of the group?

I joined a game with a group of friends and a couple of other people I haven't met, one of which is the current DM. While I like everyone in the game personally, the current DM is extremely strict, a ...
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How should a GM deal with sexuality in an RPG?

I think it's a matter of fact that since the first moment a player realizes that he or she can interact with someone of the opposite sex romantically within the game, things get hairy. I had my fair ...
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As a player, I am approaching a situation where “My Guy” syndrome seems inevitable and almost appropriate. What can I do to soften any problems?

Alright, so this problem takes a bit of background to explain, but in a nutshell: Having talked with the other players in the group, and having seen how things play out in-session with the party, ...
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As a player, how can I deal with a fundamentally annoying teammate

I play in my school's D&D club and our first year was last year. During that first year, one of my fellow players rolled a sorcerer with high charisma (17) but low intelligence (8). He ...
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How do I cater to the Three Stooges and good roleplayers at the same time?

As a little background, in case it matters: most of the players in my group (but not all) are college aged, and all of them are personal friends of mine. We're playing D&D 3.5. I myself am the ...
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How do I deal with someone who is controlling, both as a player and a DM?

My question revolves around dealing with what I regard as an overly controlling player/DM in D&D 5e. For privacy purposes, we will call my friend Boris. We play at Boris' house. We play once a ...
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How to fairly schedule sessions when not everyone can make it anymore

So we've been playing a campaign for a few months, and we've kind of hit an impasse. Alice's work roster has changed. She can't make it to Game Night anymore. We'd move it to our back-up day, but Bob ...
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Dealing with (supposedly) in-character bullying

There is a member in our current gaming group that has been difficult to deal with and I would really appreciate some advice. For context: We are a group of four people, including the DM, and have ...
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How can I get a resolution to in and out-of-game actions that made me uncomfortable?

Two of our players' characters have had (since the beginning) a very 'pig-tail pulling' relationship from day one. One is a high lady, the other a rougher sea-man. Little fireballs aimed at armpits, ...
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How do I deal with a bored or distracted player bringing down the group?

My group have been playing various D&D style games for a few years, I have one player however that often will drift off and start playing on his phone and several times has actually fallen ...
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Is it up to the DM or to the player to “fix” a tone problem in the group?

Playing in a friend's campaign and the other PC is difficult to play against, to the point that it's frustrating me both in and out of character. The DM and I are playing a high-magic, god-touched ...
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A fellow player does not want me to roleplay, what do I do?

I have a little problem. One of the guys I'm playing with does not like roleplay. What I do now is like: I'm talking to the dog: Good dog, good dog Reciting it as a hypnotizing mantra ...
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What to do when you notice another player's mistake?

I happened to notice a mistake that one of the other players has been making a mistake that causes their character to be much more powerful than the rules dictate that they should be. I'm sure that ...
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How can I motivate my fellow players?

Although I'm very much enjoying the one of the games I'm in, the other players seem to be flagging and losing interest. This is a bit disheartening as their lack of enthusiasm is bringing down the ...
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I'm not a DM anymore. How do I adjust to being a player again?

For the past 5 years or so, I've been a DM/GM across a couple of different systems for a few different groups of friends. Now, I've taken a step back and gone back to being a player. How do I deal ...
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How do you switch from parenting-mode to GM-mode?

Directly related to this question. My players are my children, aged 7 through 14. A GM has a different relationship with players than a parent does with children. A parent tries to encourage and ...
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What to do when you end up duplicating another players character?

Frequently I seem to roll up characters who are the spitting image of someone else's character. Most recently I rolled up a Utility Force Wizard for Star wars: Saga edition, which matched someone else ...
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How do I get my players to communicate with me?

I've been GMing for a few months and have run two campaigns. In each of these campaigns, people have ended up leaving because of problems I could have fixed if I knew what was going on. So how do I ...
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Is it wrong to ask a player to justify their character's actions?

When a player has their character do something completely outside of the perceived norm for that character, is it okay to ask them for a justification? If they can not give satisfactory justification,...
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Helping a player who states “I have very little imagination” enjoy the game more?

I have a friend in a couple of my role-playing groups who just isn't enjoying the games very much. (We are currently running Exodus in one campaign and an D&D retro clone in the other.) This ...
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How can I find out the best style of play for the people in my group? (Asking isn't working.)

Lately, I've realized that most of the players in my D&D 5e custom story group that I am the DM of are not as engaged as they could be in the game. When I ask them how each really wants to play ...
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Sacrificing character integrity for the gameplay? [closed]

Allow me to share an example, so that we can all be on the same page here: Player A Is playing a paladin character that believes in always doing the right thing. And Player A loves to RP as this ...
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How to deal with a player who doesn't understand party roles?

In our group (specifically Pathfinder), we have a player who's playing a master summoner (a very squishy class), and doesn't understand that his character can't solve every problem like the rest, ...
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Dealing with a difficult player who's uninterested and disruptive, as a player

We've started a new campaign that's full of new players. The only people with experience are the GM (5+ years) and myself (1 campaign, 7 sessions). The other 4 have never touched a TRPG. It's been ...
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How to deal with differing interests as a DM?

A few years ago, I ran a short-lived 4e campaign with a bunch of players who all had a different idea of what aspect of the game was the most fun to them. 2 players, close friends, wanted to treat ...
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OD&D said it could be played with 20-50 players and one referee. How was that expected to work and still be fun?

Original D&D is often the shorthand name for the 1974 Dungeons & Dragons, Vol. 1, Men & Magic, written by Gary Gygax and Dave Arneson. The section on "Scope" has this quote: Number of ...
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Social contract for flirting at LARPs

I have been a participant but mostly organiser of a LARP in Switzerland for a number of years. This year I have for the first time participated in a large organised LARP in Germany (Conquest of ...
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Dealing with people who turn up late for sessions

I run sessions every Monday evening at a pub in the centre of London, and most people come to play straight from work. Up until recently we were attempting to start at 7pm, but there were one or two ...
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Our GM won't let us affect the story; the more I play the less fun I have. What do I do?

I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice or anything on a GM situation. My current GM is running a campaign and it is very video game/anime like. It started out super fun and the deeper ...
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How do I handle a DM that plays favorites with certain players?

I am currently in a campaign where, out of everyone involved I’m the least friend of the group. My character has certain secrets and I will text the DM at times so the other players don’t know. He ...

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