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Questions tagged [group-dynamics]

This tag is for game-participant dynamics including dealing with sensitive topics, managing group composition, and other table-level interactions. For questions dealing with the actual party of characters in the game, use the [party] tag.

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As a player, how can I deal with a fundamentally annoying teammate

I play in my school's D&D club and our first year was last year. During that first year, one of my fellow players rolled a sorcerer with high charisma (17) but low intelligence (8). He ...
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Practical use of the O-card, or how to measure positive consent on the fly

I'm preparing to run a game of Bluebeard's Bride with couple of players I don't know very well. This game can be quite heavy on disturbing content, so I certainly plan to have an X-card equivalent in ...
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How can I get a resolution to in and out-of-game actions that made me uncomfortable?

Two of our players' characters have had (since the beginning) a very 'pig-tail pulling' relationship from day one. One is a high lady, the other a rougher sea-man. Little fireballs aimed at armpits, ...
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Social contract for flirting at LARPs

I have been a participant but mostly organiser of a LARP in Switzerland for a number of years. This year I have for the first time participated in a large organised LARP in Germany (Conquest of ...
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How do I handle a DM that plays favorites with certain players?

I am currently in a campaign where, out of everyone involved I’m the least friend of the group. My character has certain secrets and I will text the DM at times so the other players don’t know. He ...
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As a player I want to help a new GM with 1 or 2 problem players. Turn the negativity into something fun [closed]

I'm looking for "out of the box" solutions and "how to debate this" techniques for a very "group and players" specific issue Looking for experience backed advices, ideally. I did search for similar ...
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I have a ruthless DM and I'm considering leaving the party. What are my options to minimize the negative impact to the rest of the group?

I joined a game with a group of friends and a couple of other people I haven't met, one of which is the current DM. While I like everyone in the game personally, the current DM is extremely strict, a ...
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Should I run a campaign with 2 people, or get more players? [closed]

I'm a new DM and have about two players. I am wondering if I should run the game with my existing group, or get more players.
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How do I, as a player, encourage my fellow players to role play?

I am a player in a group of 5 +1 dm. Three of them are wonderful, as well as the DM. They role play, provide commentary, and are great sports when it comes to the game. The last two are a bit more ...
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As a DM, how do you control a dysfunctional group wanting different things out of a game?

I recently saw a video talking about different kinds of players in DnD and I always understood that people play the game for different reasons. I myself am a roleplayer and enjoy the conversations and ...
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A player is constantly pestering me about rules, what do I do as a DM?

Okay I admit I'm new to D&D. I've been playing for 2 years now and only been playing 5e. I don't learn by reading the entire manual in one sitting, I have learnt everything from actually playing ...
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Is adding a new player (or players) a DM decision, or a group decision?

We are a party of 5 (not including our DM) and we have been playing a campaign for about 2 months. The DM has mentioned the idea of adding some new players (potentially 3). He mentioned that he knew ...
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How do I handle a table mixing up the DM and the players' roles too often?

So, after some time I came back to playing live (not online) RPG because a friend of mine, who is used to D&D 3.5, asked me to help him with a 5e table where almost all the players are new to D&...
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How to raise the difficulty and have players love it?

I'm having a little discrepancy with my usual gaming group regarding a topic I don't see much, difficulty, or how challenging the games actually are. We usually play very system heavy games like ...
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How can I get people to remember my character's gender?

I really enjoy playing male characters and I'm currently playing a really fun Tabaxi lad! Unfortunately, a lot of my party members (in character) still refer to my character as she/her often. I have a ...
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The other players in my D&D party keep ignoring me. How can I get the other players and DM to consider my input equally?

I wanna preface this whole thing by saying that some of my party get along well and interact with the story - not to mention that outside of the campaign, I get along great with the other players. ...
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My GM is creating situations that I feel are ruining my experience

That does sound a bit harsh, but let me explain. We have been gaming for a few years now in this group. We do have fun, but lately I have been noticing a recurring factor that is impacting on my ...
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Can a new player join a group only when a new campaign starts?

I moved into a house share with my friends (ages 24-29), and they play role-playing games on weekends at the house, but they won't let me join in because they say it's not fair to the players that ...
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My thieves party constantly steal from each other, but when I do they attack me and berate me. (long post) [closed]

Yesterday something happened during a D&D 5e session that created a between me, a player, and the three other players. I'd like to have your perspective on the matter, and a way forward, because ...
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I'm worried the players at my group don't like me. What do I do? [closed]

Note: This is about a social dynamic, and is loosely related to gameplay. If you want to answer the question, keep this in mind. Or maybe it is gameplay; it could have something to do with how I'm ...
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How to leave a campaign you've been playing for a long time? [duplicate]

I've been playing a campaign for a while, a year or so (I know this isn't 'long' in terms of some campaigns but it's too long to just drop and say 'it's not my kinda playing style'). It's an online ...
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Assign mini 'secret' quest to one of the party members? [closed]

I'm planning a Dungeons and Dragons campaign set in a province undergoing a separatist insurrection. I want the theme/shtick of the campaign to be the idea of choices and unintended consequences. The ...
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How do I handle a situation where one of my players wants another player gone? [closed]

I run a game with around 6 people. One of my players (A) wants another one of my players (B) not to play with us anymore. A has come to me in the past two different times with complaints about B, ...
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How do I fix the group tension caused by my character stealing and possibly killing without provocation?

I am a beginner to D&D. I chose to be chaotic neutral for the freedom of basically doing whatever I want. I was wondering if I was starting to be "that guy"... By that, I was hoping you know that ...
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How can I, as DM, deal with an attention-grabbing player, and a group who can't speak up?

I'm running a campaign of D&D 5e with a few friends of mine, all of us being first timers in the genre. We play online, since some of us live too spread-out to meet regularly. We are about to hit ...
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How do I deal with being envious of my own players?

I am the problem GM in question. I haven't played for a long time. My last two attempts at it were with GMs that represented "no" rather than "yes, but" approach. Often railroaded to the point of ...
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Our game master loves running for a large group; we get much more enjoyment from a small group

A fellow player of two years has started to run a game for us. He's the best game master I've ever had the privilege of playing for, and we love our game. However our DM's ambition to run a large ...
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How can I as GM control off-topic moments and get the players to maintain a serious tone?

My friends and I started playing RPGs at the same time without the help of any experienced person. I am the GM but I struggle to make the players focus on anything that can progress the story in some ...
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Is it a violation of my player agency if another player is allowed to wish away memories from my character?

A situation occurred in a recent game in which one PC ended up in control of a being of power from the outer planes via their true name. The being confirmed that they would attempt to "slip the ...
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How should I deal with a player who wants to dictate loot distribution?

There a couple of incidents involved, one of which happened previously, and another of which is occurring now. The first incident The first incident happened when my Life Cleric (level 6-7) found a ...
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How to handle players who push fun aspects way too far?

I'm a DM running a Naheulbeuk campaign with coworkers on lunch time. The Dungeon of Naheulbeuk is a humorous french podcast adventure, which parodies RPG, fantasy pop culture and tabletop games. ...
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How to convince players to trust me, as the player, after my character got possessed?

Recently during a session, my wizard was possessed and her personality was changed to to be, as described by the DM, "She's in charge, and doesn't like it when people don't listen to her. She'll do ...
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How can I run regular one-hour sessions of D&D? [duplicate]

I had an idea while talking to some co-workers today. I asked them if they'd be interested in starting a game that we could play during our lunch hours. My idea is that we'd spend at least one hour a ...
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I keep rolling terribly. How can I keep playing this character and have fun, despite my luck?

I've always wanted to play D&D before, and recently I finally found an online play-by-chat group I can play with regularly. I spent a lot of time chatting with them and building up a fun noble ...
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How do I tell my S.O. that I am not enjoying playing with this group?

Recently, my group started a game of Starfinder that is run by my S.O. Part of the reason my S.O. wanted to run the game was so that I could have a chance to play as a player since I've been DMing ...
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Is it normal for my players to be this casual about the game? [closed]

I'm a new DM and I'm running a group of new players. We're a pretty casual group and they haven't bought books or dice, and aren't very invested in the game. Is that normal? How much should I ask of ...
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I think my DM is consistently faking dice rolls for saves against a specific spell; how do I call my DM out?

I've been watching one of our players repeatedly cast toll the dead (Xanathar's Guide to Everything, p. 169), across seven sessions, and a dozen different combat encounters, and the DM has never once ...
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How can I make my players settle their differences in-character?

I am currently running a game of Dungeon World as a first-time GM. In my party of 5 players, there is a barbarian who always rushes in to fight head-on, and also behaves very aggressively towards ...
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How can we non-lethally subdue a fellow PC character?

In our party we have a sorcerer who looks for opportunities to prank our wizard and paladin. We're new to RP and aren't yet sure about our options for something like this. Is there a way for a lawful ...
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As a DM, is it improper of me to flirt with one of my players “off the clock”?

(I'm not sure if this belongs here or in interpersonal.SE; I decided to post here because I hope that others may have first- or second-hand experience.) The premise is simple: in my weekly 5e ...
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When a player has drama and won't communicate

Right now, a player seems to be upset with events of a session he missed and hasn't responded to my messages. Background About a month or two ago, a player began to be dissatisfied with how I ran ...
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Can the DM force player vs. player social checks?

Last session, my DM made me roll a Deception check against another player. I failed the roll, and as a result I was forced to reply a specific way and reveal information I otherwise wouldn't have ...
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How can I pick my players’ brains for what they’d like to play?

In our group there's me (85% of the time as GM) and two other players. We have played for about three years, approx. 20 times a year. Sometimes we see each other outside sessions as well, we're ...
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A player is unhappy that people are playing the same class. Did I do something wrong?

How do I deal with people choosing the same class? Can people do it? I have one player who doesn’t think so and is really unhappy about it and is telling me I have to figure out why they should care ...
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How can we kick our novice roleplayer out of the group for being a poor match, without alienating them from the hobby?

I have someone in my group who is completely new to the hobby. We are now 12 sessions in, and I will most likely need to remove them from the group: Our play styles don't match, and the rest of the ...
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Player already planning on holding the party hostage next campaign

Backstory We had a new player join us mid campaign and he made an eccentric Dragonborn character. The character joined a group of a rather ignorant elf and human who were already at odds with each ...
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Online play: How to keep the group focused?

I'm the default GM for a group of friends who have been - in some constellation or another - playing together through two major campaigns and various shorter ones over the past decades (plural). ...
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My group seems to keep forgetting to give my character gear, what can I do?

I recently joined a Pathfinder group with some good friends of mine, and it's been going pretty well except for one little problem. The problem is that almost every time our party finds loot or gear, ...
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Dealing with (supposedly) in-character bullying

There is a member in our current gaming group that has been difficult to deal with and I would really appreciate some advice. For context: We are a group of four people, including the DM, and have ...
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How to handle irresolvable player character motives?

Background Up until recently, I ran a 5E game for five players: a sorcerer, two wizards, and two warlocks (all level 3 humans). All five are familiar with 5E. This is my first attempt at running an ...