Questions tagged [problem-gm]

For questions about situations in which the game master, for whatever reason, contributes to the difficulty of play. Sometimes you just don't get along with your GM. Many questions about problematic Game Masters can be answered just by making sure everyone is playing the same game on the same page. If that doesn't address your question, ask away! (See also: the [problem-players] tag.)

Filter by
Sorted by
Tagged with
39
votes
5answers
8k views

The DM is unapologetically providing TPK encounters; what can we do?

Situation I have a friend who is just starting as a DM. They've run a couple of one-shots that were really hard and ended with TPKs. Both one-shots were miserable slogs, and the encounters were ...
14
votes
4answers
546 views

What to do about a GM that does not allow for out-of-character discussion?

My GM tries to keep the game moving by not allowing for in-party discussion or out-of-character questions or remarks. For example, our party travels across town to an NPC's place with the intention ...
13
votes
2answers
641 views

How to deal with a DM changing my backstory and dismissing my ideas?

The buildup I am playing a campaign with a few friends and we are all kinda new including the DM, though he does have a little more experience than the players. The other day the DM asked everyone ...
15
votes
1answer
404 views

How to deal with a DM who makes major changes to a PC without the player's permission?

So last night I was absent from our game and my DM took over my character with neither my knowledge nor consent. Not only that, he also changed my characters relationship with an NPC. I’m really not ...
17
votes
2answers
448 views

How do I encourage my GM to relax her grip on the story and let the players have some free will?

I've been playing a number of different games with the same core group of friends for years now. We meet once a week with the occasional exception. For the last few months, one of our players has ...
3
votes
0answers
255 views

How to deal with DM that railroads you, and then says you skipped things? [closed]

Mid-campaign we approached a building, and then the DM railroaded us into a certain side room, says that we barged in, and the guards in the room shouted to a different room for backup. The DM then ...
7
votes
0answers
108 views

How to deal with a DM who pointedly ignores important details? [duplicate]

The campaign was intended to be difficult. We knew and accepted that up front, and it sounded like a fun challenge. But we never knew until we were already a fair ways into it how much of the ...
17
votes
1answer
3k views

How do I handle a DM that plays favorites with certain players?

I am currently in a campaign where, out of everyone involved I’m the least friend of the group. My character has certain secrets and I will text the DM at times so the other players don’t know. He ...
2
votes
2answers
235 views

As a player I want to help a new GM with 1 or 2 problem players. Turn the negativity into something fun [closed]

I'm looking for "out of the box" solutions and "how to debate this" techniques for a very "group and players" specific issue Looking for experience backed advices, ideally. I did search for similar ...
16
votes
3answers
2k views

I have a ruthless DM and I'm considering leaving the party. What are my options to minimize the negative impact to the rest of the group?

I joined a game with a group of friends and a couple of other people I haven't met, one of which is the current DM. While I like everyone in the game personally, the current DM is extremely strict, a ...
44
votes
8answers
9k views

How to communicate to my GM that not being allowed to use stealth isn't fun for me?

I started with a group some times ago a new campaign. I made a thief that used a bow and was very very stealth based (level 3 thief having +21 on stealth with all effects applied). The intent was ...
6
votes
1answer
562 views

Can I choose a Martial Archetype after level 3?

I created a fighter character, and leveled it up to level 3. When I hit level 3, the DM asked me what my martial archetype would be and I said I didn't care, because I didn't know and knowing him, he ...
37
votes
11answers
12k views

How to handle DM constantly stealing everything from sleeping characters? [closed]

In past campaigns, the DM has had a habit of stealing from our characters while they sleep impulsively without any sort of story reason. And not just regular stealing either, they manage to remove all ...
20
votes
3answers
2k views

The other players in my D&D party keep ignoring me. How can I get the other players and DM to consider my input equally?

I wanna preface this whole thing by saying that some of my party get along well and interact with the story - not to mention that outside of the campaign, I get along great with the other players. ...
21
votes
5answers
1k views

My GM is creating situations that I feel are ruining my experience

That does sound a bit harsh, but let me explain. We have been gaming for a few years now in this group. We do have fun, but lately I have been noticing a recurring factor that is impacting on my ...
8
votes
1answer
330 views

How to leave a campaign you've been playing for a long time? [duplicate]

I've been playing a campaign for a while, a year or so (I know this isn't 'long' in terms of some campaigns but it's too long to just drop and say 'it's not my kinda playing style'). It's an online ...
50
votes
6answers
9k views

How do I deal with being envious of my own players?

I am the problem GM in question. I haven't played for a long time. My last two attempts at it were with GMs that represented "no" rather than "yes, but" approach. Often railroaded to the point of ...
15
votes
2answers
3k views

How do I tell my Dungeon Master that her custom feat breaks my character?

I found out today that my DM (in a D&D 5e game) made some tweaks to my character's backstory, specifically some of the formative parts of his 'creation'. These changes are on the border of myth ...
11
votes
4answers
916 views

Is a DM supposed to be against the party? [closed]

I'm a really really new player. Is it good etiquette for a DM to get upset that you're killing or beating their encounter? A guy said he would DM for us in a one-shot. Before we ever started he ...
23
votes
4answers
2k views

How can I reason with a game master who shoots down any magical solutions?

I have recently joined a game and there were several instances where the dungeon master just shot down any idea that didn't fit her plot. We were supposed to have this encounter in this forest with ...
13
votes
1answer
512 views

My GM declines valid dialogue by my character due to his low Charisma; how can I change my GM's mind?

This is the first time I'm playing D&D. As a result, I may have botched the stats of my character. I have a low Charisma stat. However, in my understanding, this should only be a modifier to how ...
24
votes
4answers
4k views

What do I do about a game-breaking ruling on how summoning works?

I'm playing in a 5e campaign, and one of the other players convinced the DM to let him summon animals inside of other animals - for example, summoning a wolf inside of a cow. The player has exploited ...
8
votes
3answers
1k views

Can a DM deny your background if it's from a book? [closed]

My Dungeon Master and I have been at arms for a week now since she allowed another player to kill me while I was away from the game, sick. Now that I've built my new character, she tells me that I ...
39
votes
7answers
11k views

How do I deal with a DM that throws encounters at us that are way above the party?

I'm not sure if the question was worded in a coherent way, but I have recently played in a Pathfinder game and a 5e game and both times the DM (same one both times) gave us overpowered encounters. ...
53
votes
11answers
23k views

How can I tell the DM that I wasn't having fun and that I fault him for it?

Yesterday I was playing one shot DnD 5e and didn't expect that I become salty. The Adventure The one shot start at level 5 and I made sharpshooter fighter and my character was neutral good. So my ...
65
votes
6answers
27k views

I think my DM is consistently faking dice rolls for saves against a specific spell; how do I call my DM out?

I've been watching one of our players repeatedly cast toll the dead (Xanathar's Guide to Everything, p. 169), across seven sessions, and a dozen different combat encounters, and the DM has never once ...
5
votes
0answers
163 views

How can I talk to my game-master about his self-insert character without offending him? [duplicate]

I have been in this long-term game where the group has been in a semi-railroaded adventure. However, there has been something that has been bugging me for a while. The game-master has this person ...
35
votes
8answers
6k views

Can the DM force player vs. player social checks?

Last session, my DM made me roll a Deception check against another player. I failed the roll, and as a result I was forced to reply a specific way and reveal information I otherwise wouldn't have ...
24
votes
7answers
7k views

How to handle a GM cheating in the players’ favor?

I have a friend and who is currently playing under a GM that cheats in the players’ favour: uses poor enemy tactics, will not use enemies abilities correctly, generally keeps enemies from finishing ...
50
votes
5answers
9k views

Can the DM change his/her mind after a player has rolled?

I'm new to D&D, and have been participating in campaigns that are meant to be completed within a single night. Last weekend, the DM requested that I make a Sleight of Hand check for an action ...
7
votes
1answer
738 views

How should you react, as an AL player, when a Dungeon Master alters the rules?

Let's say you're an Arcane Trickster Rogue, and you play in Adventurers League games. One night, you play at a DM's table, and during combat, when you would normally benefit from Sneak Attack, said DM ...
13
votes
3answers
2k views

Unruly player not playing to campaign alignment

I recently joined a mostly neutral, mid-level campaign. The trouble is that one of the characters decided that his character was going insane, and made himself an insanity die roller (randomly by the ...
2
votes
3answers
602 views

How to approach the GM to tell them that they are a bad GM [closed]

Ok, I need the community's opinion on this. My GM is being . . . not great . . . at his job. I love this group, we have done almost 700 hours together on Roll20, but the current GM is causing me ...
3
votes
1answer
497 views

Being Railroaded (Advice)

So, I'm in a Pathfinder campaign with my friends. However, some of us are not enjoying the campaign. This is mostly in part by the lack of player agency. The world is well developed but we're left the ...
14
votes
3answers
8k views

Can a rogue multiclass into druid?

My young son is stuck playing a 4th-level rogue when he really wants to play a druid. He inherited the character from me when he joined the game and the GM is saying he can't swap characters1 (the ...
24
votes
5answers
4k views

When should I correct my GM during a game?

I'm currently playing dungeon world with a GM who doesn't really like following Dungeon World's rules. As a result my GM often either decides to break the rules or to change the rules. I am of the ...
3
votes
2answers
871 views

How to deal with a problem player who is also a problem DM

Bear with me this situation is a mess. I'm relatively new to D&D and recently found a group to play with. The group meets one a week but plays two different games, one game one week and another ...
33
votes
3answers
5k views

Is a Dungeon Master allowed to change existing rules in Adventurers League play?

So, this question is kind of the driving wheel behind several other recent questions of mine. It has been partially and/or indirectly answered elsewhere, but I'd like this question to centralize the ...
16
votes
3answers
1k views

Must the DM be told before a game what magic items a PC owns?

Recently in an Adventurers League game the DM prevented my PC from using a magic item because I had not mentioned to the DM before the game that my PC possessed it, but I didn't know I was supposed to ...
66
votes
13answers
16k views

How to deal with a player who is a bad sport?

I have a dedicated gaming group that meets every Sunday. We have been playing regularly for over a year now. It's small, just 5 of us including the current DM. We all rotate DM position per campaign ...
73
votes
7answers
11k views

Our GM won't let us affect the story; the more I play the less fun I have. What do I do?

I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice or anything on a GM situation. My current GM is running a campaign and it is very video game/anime like. It started out super fun and the deeper ...
8
votes
5answers
1k views

How to approach a stifling DM

I have a bit of a problem with a restrictive DM. In the next paragraph I will rant a bit (understatement) so if you want just skip it. This person is shutting down all my attempts at min-maxing (...
44
votes
6answers
10k views

How can I convince my DM that my diplomacy will work on his characters?

So I’m playing D&D 3.5e with a small group, and my character, a smooth talker whose main ability is diplomacy, was trying to convince one of the DM's characters to come and help him with a quest ...
13
votes
1answer
879 views

How to handle a martyred GMPC as a player?

I'm a player in a one-on-one game with a friend, who is the GM. Both of us control several characters each, which should in theory be getting equal use. (Our game uses FATE mechanics, however, the ...
8
votes
1answer
24k views

Meta DM'ing against Booming Blade [closed]

I currently have a Roguelock Swashbuckler in a campaign, in this campaign one of his cantrips is Booming Blade. Now the DM has suggested already nerfing the cantrip to remove the extra d8 it receives ...
33
votes
2answers
4k views

What do I do if the GM at a convention game isn't anywhere close to getting the rules right?

I once played in a one-shot at Origins Game Fair that was supposed to be a Savage Worlds game. However, the gamemaster wasn't even close to following the rules correctly. It wasn't just things like ...
7
votes
1answer
502 views

How can I deal with a DM I feel is over-exerting control over our characters?

I play AD&D 2e and we rotate DM's every few months. Each one runs a different campaign. When we reach a good point we pause one campaign and switch to another and eventually come back to the ...
16
votes
3answers
3k views

What should a player do if the DM doesn't know the rules?

One of the players in the Pathfinder campaign that I GM started DMing a D&D 5e campaign, and he invited me to play. I started reading the 5e rules the moment he asked. After two session, I ...
0
votes
2answers
3k views

How do I quit powergaming in an unfair campaign? [closed]

I have been playing D&D 5e for a number of months now, just with a group of friends of varying experience, and I'm running into problems whenever one of us DMs. I suppose you could say that I like ...
4
votes
7answers
5k views

How can I deal with a DM and plot device targeting my character?

As always, answers drawing on experience would be ideal. In our session last night, our party faced a number of enemies which, to us, seemed impossible to defeat in combat. The enemies included: A ...