Questions tagged [problem-gm]

For questions about situations in which the game master, for whatever reason, contributes to the difficulty of play. Sometimes you just don't get along with your GM. Many questions about problematic Game Masters can be answered just by making sure everyone is playing the same game on the same page. If that doesn't address your question, ask away! (See also: the [problem-players] tag.)

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How can I tell the DM that I wasn't having fun and that I fault him for it?

Yesterday I was playing a one-shot DnD 5e and didn't expect that I would become salty. The Adventure The one-shot started at level 5 and I made a Sharpshooter\Fighter and my character was Neutral Good....
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How to deal with DM favoritism toward a player who is able to silence other players in order to avoid being constantly overruled by the group?

I've been in a campaign for the past 4 months with a very controlling DM and a player who has been dubbed their favorite. The DM in question is very flexible with anything in their game... as long as ...
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How do I deal with being envious of my own players?

I am the problem GM in question. I haven't played for a long time. My last two attempts at it were with GMs that represented "no" rather than "yes, but" approach. Often railroaded to the point of ...
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How can I suggest the DM stop trying to kill us?

We have been playing a game for a while now, and while the game itself is quite enjoyable, the only problem is that the DM seems to be aiming to kill us. Sort of. For example, there have been three ...
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I need someone from the outside to look at my situations to tell if my DM is being unfair…? [closed]

Ok here are my examples: we are playing "Undermountain of the mad mage". My first character seemed really underpowered even though i don't think she was. Whenever I create a character I like ...
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Is a Dungeon Master allowed to change existing rules in Adventurers League play?

So, this question is kind of the driving wheel behind several other recent questions of mine. It has been partially and/or indirectly answered elsewhere, but I'd like this question to centralize the ...
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How can I get the DM to stop sending giants to kill us?

We just started a group. The DM pitched the campaign as easier than his last campaign. We were in a forest, and he sent eight giants at us, at once! We barely made it out alive. He then said there was ...
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As a player I want to help a new GM with 1 or 2 problem players. Turn the negativity into something fun [closed]

I'm looking for "out of the box" solutions and "how to debate this" techniques for a very "group and players" specific issue Looking for experience backed advices, ideally. I did search for similar ...
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What level, if any, of feedback should players give a new GM?

I've recently started playing D&D with a few friends, most of whom are new-ish to the game. Our GM is running their first world, and while their world building is very impressive, when it comes to ...
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How can I help my GM make the gameplay they provide more interesting?

My girlfriend and I are in a game my friend started a while ago. (We're playing D&D 5e.) It is his first game, but we all DM other games at the same time. I feel I have done a lot of research ...
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To what extent is the DM responsible for resolving interpersonal conflict? [closed]

Interpersonal conflict can arise between any people. If a player has an issue with another player within a gaming group for a game that has a DM/GM/Keeper, what responsibility does a DM have to help ...
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When is it appropriate to contest a DM? [closed]

Ι am struggling to find helpful information about when it is appropriate for a player to challenge a DM's decision. There was a recent question which triggered this "old chestnut" for me: ...
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How do you handle a difficult DM in D&D?

I am currently in a long-running game with friends and family. The question is, what do you do about an inconsistent and abusive GM? Example: Recently mid-session, there was a routine turn of combat ...
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I think my DM is consistently faking dice rolls for saves against a specific spell; how do I call my DM out?

I've been watching one of our players repeatedly cast toll the dead (Xanathar's Guide to Everything, p. 169), across seven sessions, and a dozen different combat encounters, and the DM has never once ...
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How to deal with a DM changing my backstory and dismissing my ideas?

The buildup I am playing a campaign with a few friends and we are all kinda new including the DM, though he does have a little more experience than the players. The other day the DM asked everyone for ...
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Lore Jockey players

I've been having problems with a player where he'll trying to get me to homebrew rules for him based on these lore points. Recently he wanted to get his blade serrated to do bleed damage. After ...
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What do I do about a prescriptive GM/player who argues that gender and sexuality aren’t personality traits? [closed]

I play RPGs (usually D&D but other stuff too) every week with a group of friends who I’ve known since middle school (~4 years of knowing each other and ~3.9 years of playing RPGs together). The ...
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My DM wouldn't let my character use Acrobatics to escape an Ankheg's grapple, even after it was asleep. Can my DM do this, or am I overreacting?

Now, I know this sounds like something small, but it did annoy me. We were fighting an Ankheg. We killed one, and after combat ended the DM had another one come up from the ground and grapple me ...
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Hosting a game, who has final say? [closed]

I am currently hosting a group for Dungeons and Dragons. The DM is pushing new players into my home without asking. He claims he has this right because he is the DM. No one else wants to host. What ...
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I'm not good at DMing, but I don't think they really care… do I quit? [closed]

So I've been doing some thinking and essentially realized I'm a garbage DM. I am literally the embodiment of Railroading and unwillingness to listen to their wishes. I love my lore way too much and ...
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How to deal with Mary Sue NPCs

This question is a bit different than the one here, because the NPC is not a jerk. In fact, they're actually quite nice. However, this is not the first time the GM has done this. In our game, we have ...
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How can I convince my DM that my diplomacy will work on his characters?

So I’m playing D&D 3.5e with a small group, and my character, a smooth talker whose main ability is diplomacy, was trying to convince one of the DM's characters to come and help him with a quest ...
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Could I have handled this PC interaction better?

I started up a play by post game on roll20 for a group of friends. A co-worker, and friend of another player, had asked to join in. Let's call him P1, or Player 1. I said sure, we got the game going ...
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How do I go about convincing my DM that their ruling about my familiar is a bit harsh?

Last session, my DM ruled that my imp cannot help me perform checks (in this instance I was trying to have my little guy help me pick through some dead guards' pockets) because he deemed that giving ...
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How to handle a boring campaign (as a player)

I've been tabletop-ing with a longtime group of friends (Shadowrun, but it doesn't really matter). I've been having fun, I suppose, but we are five sessions in and there is still no semblance of a ...
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As a GM, how can I stop killing my games?

Probably the worst issue I have as a Game Master is that I think of a game, I write a campaign plot for it -- End, Beginning and Middle, get hyped, hype my players, and after 2 months I get bored with ...
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Should I continue to play with a frustrating DM?

[Sorry if this is really long] I don't usually do this but I'm having a hard time with my current D&D group and I'm not really having fun anymore because of it. I think our DM is having us play a ...
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How do I tell my friends that I feel like some of the PCs are being left out?

I am playing in a D&D campaign and there's two main problems I have: My character's personality is very bard-like, but I didn't know what bards were so now another PC is filling that role and I ...
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Can the DM change his/her mind after a player has rolled?

I'm new to D&D, and have been participating in adventures that are meant to be completed within a single night. Last weekend, the DM requested that I make a Sleight of Hand check for an action ...
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How to deal with a GM who favors other players

I have seen plenty of GMs write about how to deal with problem players, and I suppose I should ask about a GM who favors some players over others. It's only natural if you have a more rich backstory ...
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Did I overstep my power as DM?

While playing a game with a previous group, in the middle of a combat, I had an enemy caster hidden from general combat, but still casting different spells like heal and other non-damage spells to ...
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Should I leave this group or recover it?

Long Version I got a friend into Pathfinder less than a year ago. She had lots of fun. She had so much fun she decided to become a DM/GM. I was very excited about it. Her grasp of the rules is ...
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How can I avoid straw manning any belief I am against in my game? [closed]

Like every person in the world, I have my own opinions regarding politics and philosophies. Whether it be believing that the best way to govern the world is an A.I that decides everything, or saying ...
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How do I deal with a DM who restricts my character options?

This is my third campaign with a DM. He enforces these rules: Only races from PHB 1 are permitted Only classes from PHB 1 are permitted at 1st level Cross-Classing is not permitted until 6th level ...
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Is giving my character amnesia about its backstory a bad idea?

During my first campaign as a player, I had a issue with my DM regarding the background I gave to my character. It was my first time creating a background for my character, and I loved doing it so ...
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Is it a bad idea to only start enforcing rules late in a campaign?

I'm a pretty new DM. My players are almost at session 20 in my first campaign and it's going great. One of my players has been using a monk. I wasn't familiar with the class, so I'd usually just ask ...
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Unruly player not playing to campaign alignment

I recently joined a mostly neutral, mid-level campaign. The trouble is that one of the characters decided that his character was going insane, and made himself an insanity die roller (randomly by the ...
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How do I deal with metagaming/power-playing as a player? [closed]

I'm in a D&D Homebrew campaign that allows pretty much anything as long as it is written online. We have one player in specific who is frustrating and decided at the end of the campaign, he would ...
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How should I respond to a DM who unfairly plays the “rules-lawyer” card?

My question: How would you, as an experienced role-player, deal with this situation? I was recently invited to join a 4e startup goup. I've RP'd a fair bit in my day, but not in decades, and never D&...
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Can a rogue multiclass into druid?

My young son is stuck playing a 4th-level rogue when he really wants to play a druid. He inherited the character from me when he joined the game and the GM is saying he can't swap characters1 (the ...
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What to do about a GM that does not allow for out-of-character discussion?

My GM tries to keep the game moving by not allowing for in-party discussion or out-of-character questions or remarks. For example, our party travels across town to an NPC's place with the intention ...
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I have a ruthless DM and I'm considering leaving the party. What are my options to minimize the negative impact to the rest of the group?

I joined a game with a group of friends and a couple of other people I haven't met, one of which is the current DM. While I like everyone in the game personally, the current DM is extremely strict, a ...
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The DM is unapologetically providing TPK encounters; what can we do?

Situation I have a friend who is just starting as a DM. They've run a couple of one-shots that were really hard and ended with TPKs. Both one-shots were miserable slogs, and the encounters were ...
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How do I deal with someone who is controlling, both as a player and a DM?

My question revolves around dealing with what I regard as an overly controlling player/DM in D&D 5e. For privacy purposes, we will call my friend Boris. We play at Boris' house. We play once a ...
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How to deal with a DM who makes major changes to a PC without the player's permission?

So last night I was absent from our game and my DM took over my character with neither my knowledge nor consent. Not only that, he also changed my characters relationship with an NPC. I’m really not ...
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How do I encourage my GM to relax her grip on the story and let the players have some free will?

I've been playing a number of different games with the same core group of friends for years now. We meet once a week with the occasional exception. For the last few months, one of our players has ...
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How to deal with DM that railroads you, and then says you skipped things? [closed]

Mid-campaign we approached a building, and then the DM railroaded us into a certain side room, says that we barged in, and the guards in the room shouted to a different room for backup. The DM then ...
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Our GM won't let us affect the story; the more I play the less fun I have. What do I do?

I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice or anything on a GM situation. My current GM is running a campaign and it is very video game/anime like. It started out super fun and the deeper ...
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How to deal with a DM who pointedly ignores important details? [duplicate]

The campaign was intended to be difficult. We knew and accepted that up front, and it sounded like a fun challenge. But we never knew until we were already a fair ways into it how much of the ...
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How do I handle a DM that plays favorites with certain players?

I am currently in a campaign where, out of everyone involved I’m the least friend of the group. My character has certain secrets and I will text the DM at times so the other players don’t know. He ...