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This is something the GM handles. Not players. Methods include; Playing multiple PCs - Bob, Jane, and Gr'arc are investigating the ruins of Tar'Koh. Mikkel and Swinsen have been hired to ferry Yorbo on his diplomatic mission to the merfolk. In the metropolis city, Yivref the Thief, Ponto, and his pet dog Foskin have uncovered a conspiracy with a ...


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I'd be upset in this situation too. From what I understand (correct me if I'm wrong), you decided what you would do with the PCs while the players were gone, without their consent. I would apologize to the group, and offer an opportunity to correct things. You could put in a new rule that next time someone can't make a session, their character is "busy&...


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Combine Everyone's Goals for the Story If you're worried that there's going to be a conflict of interest, instead of the temple being important to the characters only because it's dedicated to a god they worship, find a way for it to be important to the character who doesn't worship the god. Maybe their love interest, friend, or family member is a member of ...


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Talk to the Player In a game I was DMing, there was one player who constantly insulted another player - her and her PC. She would occasionally insult other players as well, often over text. This was getting on a lot of people's nerves. I eventually talked to her about it, telling her that I was trying to run a friendly game environment and no one was happy ...


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Have a Talk With the Players Talking to your players is one of the most important parts of the game. It makes sure that everyone is having a good time and feeling comfortable. Talking to these players would likely be a good idea, as well as possibly asking them to flesh out their characters (specifically their personalities), if the first solution is to roll ...


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Two things. Does your character fit the setting? As a DM that is most often the reason a player I have does not get many character-story moments. If you make your character a goofball in a horror campaign or gritty realism setting, or a sea going pirate in a desert campaign I may not be able to tie them into the story. This is often a problem with players ...


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Dig A Little Deeper If this problem stems from some sort of fundamental social issue, then there is no D&D specific solution for it. However, since you indicate that outside of the game they're generally decent to be around, I suspect it has to do with the dynamics of how you may be approaching the game. (Again, this is a guess.) Option One It's possible ...


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Work With Your DM To Orchestrate A Character Arc Beforehand As others have said, there is no easy solution here; there may be a lot of factors at play and a lot of inter-group nuance that causes the problems your facing. Let's assume, then, that their actions are unintentional and they simply struggle with trying to effectively include your specific ...


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I would try the five whys. It might go something like this, as you pose the 5 Whys to the DM: Why should I come to D&D if I can't participate and affect the game? Why do you even want me to come if I'm not participating? Why do you feel/think/act that way? etc.... Hopefully this can help you get to the root cause of the problem. Then you can decide ...


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In addition to all the other answers: I am just there to hang out with friends and not be a professional dnd player but any time I do something not perfect they always make an off handed comment about it. This paragraph makes me suspicious of two possibilities: Are you maybe not familiar enough with the DnD 5e rules and trying to do things which are not ...


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This isn't a DnD problem, this is a social problem. Being left out of conversations, no-one wanting to go to the places you want to go to, or do the things you want to do, are all social problems that people have. It involves generally reading the room poorly, being socially outmaneuvered by someone who dislikes you, or miscommunication (which can take ...


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No Easy Answer Unfortunately this is a complicated situation with no quick fix solution. It sounds like you have already tried talking to them about it, which is our normal first advice. Your friends have acknowledged the issue but failed to fully address it. I have a few points to make and only you will be able to judge what is best for you and your friends....


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Ouch. That is rough, especially when they are considerate and inclusive in other social situations. I hope this works out well for you. Normally I would try to analyze the situation and determine the root problem(s) but there is not enough information (and it may not be possible to communicate that information in an internet text posting) to make that not be ...


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