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I think my DM is consistently faking dice rolls for saves against a specific spell; how do I call my DM out?

One, don’t “stand up for” anybody without talking to them first It’s possible that this is someone who doesn’t know how to stand up for herself, and will appreciate the assistance. Far more likely, ...
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How can we handle "firing" our DM?

Tell him the truth, because that's what friends do Sometimes, talking around or avoiding an issue increases trouble, rather than decreasing it. This looks to be a case of that happening. You ...
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How can I tell the DM that I wasn't having fun and that I fault him for it?

I think I'm going to have to Frame Challenge this question. Based only on how you described the combat and outcome, it doesn't really seem like the DM did anything wrong. It seems much more strongly ...
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Can the DM change his/her mind after a player has rolled?

Can a DM change their mind on the requirements for a roll after the roll has already been made? Yes; they're the DM, there really isn't anything you can do to force the DM to accept the original roll. ...
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What do I do about a prescriptive GM/player who argues that gender and sexuality aren’t personality traits?

Start by assuming the best in others. This is a helpful attitude to maintain when you want to make peace out of conflict. The first step in resolving this conflict should not be "How do I ...
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How to deal with a player who is a bad sport?

"We can't talk to this player. So I don't know what to do." I think you just took away most people's #1 answer. If you can't talk to someone about issues, and you can't remove them from the game, ...
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How should I deal with a difficult group and a DM that doesn't help?

Yes. You should leave. These people are not respectful, and are not worth your time. Tell your brother you're not interested, and stop joining the call — he's the only person you have actual contact ...
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I think my DM is consistently faking dice rolls for saves against a specific spell; how do I call my DM out?

Don't "call them out", it's about Communication As with most interpersonal issues, the focus should be on communication. You can absolutely talk with your DM about it, but you should talk to ...
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How to deal with a player who is a bad sport?

Like this Life is too short to play games with poor sports. If their leaving causes others to leave, don't worry, it's a big wide world out there full of gamers who are not poor sports.
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How to deal with DM favoritism toward a player who is able to silence other players in order to avoid being constantly overruled by the group?

I would honestly just leave What you're describing sounds like not just favoritism but bullying. The GM has granted Hannah the power to literally tell you to shut up for fifteen minutes --- that's a ...
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Our GM won't let us affect the story; the more I play the less fun I have. What do I do?

Talk to him, preferably as a group This is really the only solution besides "Bail on the game." They key here is to be respectful, polite, and try to handle this like friends. "Confront" is not the ...
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How do I deal with a DM that throws encounters at us that are way above the party?

Talk to the DM Give non-accusatory feedback Express your point of view using neutral language and I statements. E.g. "When the encounter with 9 ogres ended in the death of all the characters, I ...
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What do I do about a prescriptive GM/player who argues that gender and sexuality aren’t personality traits?

Elton John. George Michael. Sir Ian McKellen. Stephen Fry. Jeffrey Dahmer. Andy Warhol. George Takei. All of those people have completely different personalities. All of them are gay. "...
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Could I have handled this PC interaction better?

"Is that in character or out of character?" Whilst it's good to try to catch these issues before they come up in a session 0, some things are not apparent until the game is running. It is ...
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Can the DM force player vs. player social checks?

Other answers have already dealt capably with your question: Can DM's force skill checks? Yes. Should they do so? Maybe - maybe not. But, it appears to me that your real issue may not be the skill ...
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Can a GM prohibit players from using external reference materials (like the PHB) during play?

Can the GM ban references? Yes. Specifically, "the D&D rules help you and the other players have a good time, but the rules aren't in charge. You're the DM, and you are in charge of the game." (...
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How to deal with a player who is a bad sport?

I'd encourage you to read the Five Geek Social Fallacies essay (honestly it should be mandatory reading for all RPGers). It discusses five beliefs that cause geeks a lot of grief: Ostracisers Are ...
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How to handle DM constantly stealing everything from sleeping characters?

I'm just going to rip the band-aid off: Find a new GM. This is weird, off-putting, more than a little creepy ("What's your fixation with stealing our clothes, dude?"), borderline abusive, and ...
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The DM is unapologetically providing TPK encounters; what can we do?

You have two options. Talk to your DM, or Find a new DM. End of the day, you can't force a person to change and No D&D is better than Bad D&D. So if your DM cannot be persuaded to change their ...
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How to handle DM constantly stealing everything from sleeping characters?

The only rule for this that I'm aware of is the one you're already using: you can make a listen check at a -10 penalty and you wake up if you succeed. My group, and most other groups, interpret this ...
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What should I do about another player who randomly starts PVP?

You and Barb are not playing the same game. These problem manifests while you're playing the game. But these in game issues are just symptoms of an out-of-game problem: You and Barb are not playing ...
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How can I tell the DM that I wasn't having fun and that I fault him for it?

It's not the GM's fault, it's the players' This is a classic case of My Guy Syndrome, where the other players are saying they have to do it that way "because it's what my guy would do." This is also ...
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How to deal with DM favoritism toward a player who is able to silence other players in order to avoid being constantly overruled by the group?

This problem must be solved out-of-game The DM showing favouritism towards a specific player at the expense of everyone else's fun is not a problem with the narrative, it's a problem with the social ...
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How to deal with a GM who favors other players

Like this If you are not enjoying your game, leave and join one you will enjoy. If leaving is worse than staying then put up with it. You’ve raised your concerns and they have been dismissed or ...
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How do I deal with being envious of my own players?

If you are not having fun as the GM, maybe its time to pass the torch. When I started playing D&D, the person GMing was really good at it, but did not enjoy it. One day after the session was ...
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My DM is my roommate and not a good DM... help?

It sounds like you already know the answer to your question. :) Leave the game. Life's too short. The only reason you need should be "we're not having fun in this game". If you really don't feel ...
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PCs using disciplinary talk from DM as leverage, leading to group dysfunction

It sounds like you have overbearing fellow players and a weak DM. If the DM's attempt to correct the overbearing players didn't work, I suspect it wasn't presented well. I have been in a similar ...
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I think my DM is consistently faking dice rolls for saves against a specific spell; how do I call my DM out?

Play it totally straight, within the game's own setting. If a spell designed to hurt creatures is well and truly never hurting its targets, then you've got a reasonable claim that by now, the PCs ...
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How can I convince my DM that my diplomacy will work on his characters?

Explain to him that "NPC" is not a derrogatory term It seems to me you're already trying to do exactly this. You are, of course, entirely correct in that "NPC" means "Non-...
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