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As a player, I am approaching a situation where "My Guy" syndrome seems inevitable and almost appropriate. What can I do to soften any problems?

First, you're off the hook for "My Guy" syndrome - this is clearly a conflict the GM orchestrated. "My Guy" happens when a player decides to use his character to justify derailing the plot, but ...
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How can I convince players not to offload a seemingly useless weapon?

Let them sell it. Later, when they realize they needed it, let them troop back and buy it again. It can be a little mini quest: "figure out what happened to that sword we vendored". I think your more ...
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As a girl, how can I voice male characters effectively?

As a DM, I've found that trying to distinguish characters solely by changing my voice doesn't work very well. It's not especially scalable, for one - if you have a full cast of NPCs, you're likely to ...
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How do I indicate to my players that an NPC is no longer useful and that they should move on?

Remember that NPCs are people, not info dumps. Your players are following what I'd call the video game model of NPC interaction. In a lot of RPG video games, the NPCs are infinitely patient and let ...
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How to deal with a player who is a bad sport?

"We can't talk to this player. So I don't know what to do." I think you just took away most people's #1 answer. If you can't talk to someone about issues, and you can't remove them from the game, ...
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Players Develop Backstories Too Much

I want to preface my answer by saying that I understand where your impulse is coming from, that I respect it at least in part, and that I share that impulse. But with that preface, I must in good ...
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How to deal with a player who is a bad sport?

Like this Life is too short to play games with poor sports. If their leaving causes others to leave, don't worry, it's a big wide world out there full of gamers who are not poor sports.
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I deciphered the meaning of a cryptic language out-of-game: should my character know what the meaning is?

Ask your DM whether it's supposed to be viable to decipher it, or whether you were supposed to find the clues in game. Given that they used a genuine (even if simple) cipher and a proper script ...
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Is there a way to ask in game (i.e. in a non-meta way) what a character's class is?

There is no non-metagaming way... ...because class is a metagame construct: from the characters' perspective, it doesn't exist. There is no good way to determine "class" as a hard fact for ...
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How can I get people to remember my character's gender?

Generally this "problem" tends to appear at the start of the game, where all the characters are new. My fix was to always refer to characters by their names, not pronouns. Once characters are well ...
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How should I as a GM handle a player character who has a bad memory?

Your player is correct Making a special mechanical representation of this is very likely to cause problems, and you should not do so. A trait like this simply shouldn’t be in the dice’s hands—it is ...
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How to roleplay my character's ethics according to the DM when I don't understand those ethics?

Your GM needs to understand that if you can’t see what’s ‘common sense’ it’s because they failed to explain the situation Sometimes GM’s forget that they are the player’s sole window on the world. In ...
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Our GM won't let us affect the story; the more I play the less fun I have. What do I do?

Talk to him, preferably as a group This is really the only solution besides "Bail on the game." They key here is to be respectful, polite, and try to handle this like friends. "Confront" is not the ...
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As DM, how do I deal with PCs that expect everything in the game to be relevant to the story?

Your players are new to the game (and new to your game). Unless you've told them what to expect, how could they know what your game is like? Getting stuck investigating small details or trying to get ...
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As a player, I am approaching a situation where "My Guy" syndrome seems inevitable and almost appropriate. What can I do to soften any problems?

Roleplaying and roleplaying conflict are not My Guy Syndrome "My Guy" syndrome is often misused as a term. It's when following your idea of your character's persona creates insurmountable ...
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How to deal with a player who is a bad sport?

I'd encourage you to read the Five Geek Social Fallacies essay (honestly it should be mandatory reading for all RPGers). It discusses five beliefs that cause geeks a lot of grief: Ostracisers Are ...
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Player Characters all picking on one other PC

Tell them to stop The characters are not picking on Bob’s character: the players are picking on Bob. That’s called “bullying” and it’s not acceptable in any social setting. Blaming bad player ...
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Can a D&D campaign be successfully used as a Sunday school teaching instrument?

I'm trained in conducting faith-based lessons for children focused on morality and virtues, in facilitating spiritual empowerment programs for junior youth, and in tutoring youth engaged in service-...
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Can a DM tell a player if/when they act or roleplay in a manner that isn't their alignment?

Don't tell him how to roleplay Doing so would be a vast overstep in a social circle, as it would be telling someone how to play the game (taking control over the one thing they should have total ...
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Does a PC know the general strengths and weaknesses of their stats?

Honestly, it depends. If we're talking vague things like "he is/isn't charismatic", it would depend on his personality. For example, Johnny Bravo thinks he has high Charisma. He doesn't, but he was ...
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Handling a character who frequently pickpockets teammates

Metagame First, have a metagaming session between the dwarf player and the rest of the players. Within that session, determine whether his desire to be sneaky and steal from his friends is upsetting ...
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Players get frustrated when they can't solve a hard diplomatic problem. How can I get them to think out of the box?

A: There are options for framing the person, bribing people, seeking dirt on this person to find their weakness, tarnishing their reputation, trying to prove their wrong doing by seeking out evidence, ...
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Roleplay pacing in non-combat situations

Put a real-life time limit on the discussions. Waiting to get in at the gate? Great, the party is Xth in line. Every few minutes, do something to indicate that the line has moved up, it's important ...
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As DM, how do I deal with PCs that expect everything in the game to be relevant to the story?

Players The players are new and possibly overwhelmed by having too many options. Thankfully, this is easily solved by talking to them and reiterating that the game you play is more open world. Make ...
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How do I handle players attempting to intimidate enemies with non-enchantment spells?

Treat it as a contest The players are effectively trying to use a level 0 cantrip to produce the same result as a higher level crowd control spell like Fear or Mass Suggestion. Obviously, this is ...
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Should my "average" PC be able to discern the potential of encountering a gelatinous cube from subtle clues?

It depends on what you find to be fun The Alexandrian has an interesting article on Meta-Knowledge and Meta-Skill, in the context of determining whether your fresh faced level 1 adventurer knows that ...
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DM is asking me to drop my character because it is from A Song of Ice and Fire

Ultimately, the only option anyone has is to play or not play. No one can force anyone to do anything. Your DM can’t force you to play some not-Theon-inspired character, and you can’t force your DM to ...
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How should I play my character (who is motivated to betray the party) and keep the game fun?

The Hidden Third Option: Don't Play This Character Based on information in the main text of the post, as well as answers to questions in the comments, this character: Has never been played at all, ...
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How to play a devious character when you are not personally devious?

I like to pretend to a certain amount of smirking deviousness - I once derailed an "evil campaign" by convincing the GM to put his BBEG in the party as a mole... then convincing the resident assassin ...
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How should I play my character (who is motivated to betray the party) and keep the game fun?

Ask your DM and fellow players for their advice. You are currently facing an all-too-common conflict that is sometimes called "my guy syndrome", where your character has in-game motives for ...
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