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As a player, I am approaching a situation where "My Guy" syndrome seems inevitable and almost appropriate. What can I do to soften any problems?

First, you're off the hook for "My Guy" syndrome - this is clearly a conflict the GM orchestrated. "My Guy" happens when a player decides to use his character to justify derailing the plot, but ...
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As the Dungeon Master, how do I handle a player that insists on a specific class when I already know that choice will cause issues?

The class played doesn’t matter, and arguing about it only hurts your position This situation really, really wouldn’t be any better if she was playing a sorcerer. If she ignores her prepared spells, ...
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What do I do about a prescriptive GM/player who argues that gender and sexuality aren’t personality traits?

Start by assuming the best in others. This is a helpful attitude to maintain when you want to make peace out of conflict. The first step in resolving this conflict should not be "How do I ...
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How should I deal with a difficult group and a DM that doesn't help?

Yes. You should leave. These people are not respectful, and are not worth your time. Tell your brother you're not interested, and stop joining the call — he's the only person you have actual contact ...
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What can I do about the guys being distracted by a new girl in D&D group?

[Note: When I wrote this answer, the detail about attempted sexual assault was not part of the question. If the mods allow, I'd like this answer to stand as is with the caveat that my answer below ...
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As the Dungeon Master, how do I handle a player that insists on a specific class when I already know that choice will cause issues?

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Player may be manipulating die rolls, but I'm uncertain. How do I approach the situation?

Use a Rolling Tray I don't want to accuse someone of cheating if they were not, but I also don't want cheating to continue if it is in fact occurring Since another player has already mentioned ...
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How do I avoid lecturing my players

Make the townsfolk afraid of them, too. In short: have the NPCs react like real people. It's a small town. People talk. People are going to notice the destroyed door, and others may have been drawn to ...
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What do I do about a prescriptive GM/player who argues that gender and sexuality aren’t personality traits?

Elton John. George Michael. Sir Ian McKellen. Stephen Fry. Jeffrey Dahmer. Andy Warhol. George Takei. All of those people have completely different personalities. All of them are gay. "...
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As a player, I am approaching a situation where "My Guy" syndrome seems inevitable and almost appropriate. What can I do to soften any problems?

Roleplaying and roleplaying conflict are not My Guy Syndrome "My Guy" syndrome is often misused as a term. It's when following your idea of your character's persona creates insurmountable ...
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How do I deal with this very annoying teammate who engages in player versus player combat?

“This behavior is ruining the game for me.” This sounds very not fun. Your friend needs to understand this. This is an out-of-game conversation that needs to be had. You need to cordially explain to ...
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Can a D&D campaign be successfully used as a Sunday school teaching instrument?

I'm trained in conducting faith-based lessons for children focused on morality and virtues, in facilitating spiritual empowerment programs for junior youth, and in tutoring youth engaged in service-...
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Accepting criticism as a DM

You've written: So, the members are entirely ready to retract their criticism if I can convince them that it's not valid As a DM, I think about things a bit differently. If someone tells me: "I'm ...
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How can I tell if I am a problem player?

There is no universal 'Problem Player' What might be a problem at my table may not be a problem at yours. The same goes for different games, as well as different systems (the expected play in DnD is ...
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Player may be manipulating die rolls, but I'm uncertain. How do I approach the situation?

Talk to your players Seriously. This is the very first step. Do not accuse anyone, just talk. There may be many reasons for cheating on dice: Failed roll ruined otherwise good plan that had 90% ...
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How do I deal with being envious of my own players?

If you are not having fun as the GM, maybe its time to pass the torch. When I started playing D&D, the person GMing was really good at it, but did not enjoy it. One day after the session was ...
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How can I convince my DM that my diplomacy will work on his characters?

Explain to him that "NPC" is not a derrogatory term It seems to me you're already trying to do exactly this. You are, of course, entirely correct in that "NPC" means "Non-...
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What do I do about a prescriptive GM/player who argues that gender and sexuality aren’t personality traits?

This does sound like a disagreement over the rules and can probably be fixed by relocating relevant information on the character sheet. You say you don't want answers that say "That's not how ...
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As a DM, is it improper of me to flirt with one of my players "off the clock"?

tl;dr: Tread carefully and don't be creepy. (I think this belongs more on interpersonal.SE, and relatedly recommend reading this, but I also realized I have relevant experience so I'm going to answer ...
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What do I do if my players are acting in a way that is meta-gaming and are refusing to accept my decision?

There are a ton of “same-page” issues here You are running into these problems because you aren’t all on the same page about what kind of game you’re even playing. It turns out that “Dungeons & ...
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As a player, I am approaching a situation where "My Guy" syndrome seems inevitable and almost appropriate. What can I do to soften any problems?

It might be a tough sell, but have you tried asking the other players to abandon their murder-based plans for the sake of making the game more enjoyable for the group? As your describe the situation, ...
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What to do as a DM if my players are in constant disagreement with each other?

I've seen something like this happen before. If some or all your players are enjoying some of the game, but find dealing with the other players frustrating enough that they're starting to get ...
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How to uninvite a friend from a campaign?

This might not be the answer you're asking, but maybe it's the answer you need: Simply enforce the rules. You are the DM. You make the rules at your table. Did he change his character without telling ...
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How can I get rid of drama fatigue as a GM?

I recommend a piña colada and warm sunny beach You, my friend, have some angsty players. You're clearly not enjoying running games for them and are burned out. Nothing good can come from trying to ...
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What can I do about the guys being distracted by a new girl in D&D group?

There are two core concerns here One is easier to deal with than the other. How do I get my own, and my groups hormones to be put away? (We are a bunch of 8th and 9th graders). You can't. You are ...
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How do you balance a group with both charismatic players who enjoy role-playing and introverted players who don't?

I ran into this when playing Exalted My PC was the "Socialite" (Merchant-Prince), with maxed Charisma and plenty of Social Skills. I am not that Social, and wished to play a Charismatic PC. ...
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Can a D&D campaign be successfully used as a Sunday school teaching instrument?

[Establishes credibility: I have taught Sunday school/run church youth groups and have used role-play (both freeform and RPGs) in that context. Though, admittedly, never D&D. I have played plenty ...
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Being ignored as a player in multiple campaigns

No Easy Answer Unfortunately this is a complicated situation with no quick fix solution. It sounds like you have already tried talking to them about it, which is our normal first advice. Your friends ...
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How can I get my players to come to the game session after agreeing to a date?

If they are not willing to put in the effort, it may be time to consider ending the game. This does not just apply to RPGs. What your players are showing you (indirectly) is how much they care about ...
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Is there an age requirement to play in Adventurers League?

Adventurers League is not supposed to have a minimum age requirement. When I was playing at local AL tables, one of the regulars was a 10-year old with autism and ADHD, and when he was focused he was ...
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