From the PRD:
Ki Power: A qinggong monk can select a ki power (see below) for which she qualifies in place of the following monk class abilities: slow fall (4th), high jump (5th), wholeness of body (7th), diamond body (11th), abundant step (12th), diamond soul (13th), quivering palm (15th), timeless body (17th), tongue of the sun and moon (17th), empty body (19th), and perfect self (20th). This replaces the monk class ability the qinggong monk gives up for this ki power.
I don't understand which ability you have to give up to select a Ki Power. The only detail is "for which she qualifies" and it is about the Ki Power, not about the ability you have to give up.
- Can I take Deny Death (4th-level Ki Power) by giving up Perfect Self (20th-level monk ability) ? This seems useless but if the campaign stops at level 7, it's a free ki power...
- Can I take Blinding Critical (20th-level Ki Power) by giving up Slow Fall (4th-level monk ability) ? This seems unbalanced, but RAW I don't see what prevents it.
There are 6th-level Ki Power but no 6th-level monk ability to give up. Same for level 16. Which monk ability can I give up to take Remove Disease (6th-level Ki Power) ? What about if I want to take Bleeding Critical (16th-level Ki Power) ?
It may look like multiple questions, but they are all part of the same Qinggong mechanic.